"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Need More Plates, Single Father

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Hi, I'm wondering if there is anything I can do as a single father to get more plates. Obviously I don't often go on nights out or anything, as I have my 1 year old for 6 days of the week, and the day I don't have him I get very frustrated when I don't have a date set up, or if I get flaked on.

A problem I encounter is that I think people assume I am in a relationship, and I don't know if there is a way to convey that I am not, without just saying straight away.

Most of the women in my social circle who I have a lot in common with, know my child's mother (my ex) and I don't know if they would be ok with her knowing they were dating me etc.

I have been struggling recently to meet new women, and wouldn't consider online, but have never approached anyone when I have my child with me.

As a result I begin to get attatched to someone way too quickly if they get close to me, so I think I require more plates to stop this.

I don't know if anyone deals with the same thing, or if anyone has any tips for my situation, but I would be thankful for any help.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Why not consider online? I am doing pretty good with POF. Logistics are tough with me too as I have kids at home, so sack time can be more scarce than I want, but getting dates is pretty easy.
 

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MOTU said:
Why not consider online? I am doing pretty good with POF. Logistics are tough with me too as I have kids at home, so sack time can be more scarce than I want, but getting dates is pretty easy.
Oh right, I have only heard bad things about online, and assume it was the low quality women?
POF is that the one?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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PoZest said:
Oh right, I have only heard bad things about online, and assume it was the low quality women?
POF is that the one?
Ok fair enough that the quality can be questionable, but good enough to bang while you look for a keeper (assuming you want a keeper).
 

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Try Tinder. Possible same night f*cks.
 

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How old you are will give more direction...
 

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I'm 24, so not really the age of clubbing anymore or stuff like that.
I have tinder yeah but nothing really happened on there it seemed like it was just attention-seek type women and I stopped using... Got about 30 matches but hardly anyone replied.
 
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