"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Need More Plates, Single Father

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Hi, I'm wondering if there is anything I can do as a single father to get more plates. Obviously I don't often go on nights out or anything, as I have my 1 year old for 6 days of the week, and the day I don't have him I get very frustrated when I don't have a date set up, or if I get flaked on.

A problem I encounter is that I think people assume I am in a relationship, and I don't know if there is a way to convey that I am not, without just saying straight away.

Most of the women in my social circle who I have a lot in common with, know my child's mother (my ex) and I don't know if they would be ok with her knowing they were dating me etc.

I have been struggling recently to meet new women, and wouldn't consider online, but have never approached anyone when I have my child with me.

As a result I begin to get attatched to someone way too quickly if they get close to me, so I think I require more plates to stop this.

I don't know if anyone deals with the same thing, or if anyone has any tips for my situation, but I would be thankful for any help.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Why not consider online? I am doing pretty good with POF. Logistics are tough with me too as I have kids at home, so sack time can be more scarce than I want, but getting dates is pretty easy.
 

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MOTU said:
Why not consider online? I am doing pretty good with POF. Logistics are tough with me too as I have kids at home, so sack time can be more scarce than I want, but getting dates is pretty easy.
Oh right, I have only heard bad things about online, and assume it was the low quality women?
POF is that the one?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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MOTU

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PoZest said:
Oh right, I have only heard bad things about online, and assume it was the low quality women?
POF is that the one?
Ok fair enough that the quality can be questionable, but good enough to bang while you look for a keeper (assuming you want a keeper).
 

El Payaso

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Try Tinder. Possible same night f*cks.
 

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How old you are will give more direction...
 

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I'm 24, so not really the age of clubbing anymore or stuff like that.
I have tinder yeah but nothing really happened on there it seemed like it was just attention-seek type women and I stopped using... Got about 30 matches but hardly anyone replied.
 
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