"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need More Plates, Single Father

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Hi, I'm wondering if there is anything I can do as a single father to get more plates. Obviously I don't often go on nights out or anything, as I have my 1 year old for 6 days of the week, and the day I don't have him I get very frustrated when I don't have a date set up, or if I get flaked on.

A problem I encounter is that I think people assume I am in a relationship, and I don't know if there is a way to convey that I am not, without just saying straight away.

Most of the women in my social circle who I have a lot in common with, know my child's mother (my ex) and I don't know if they would be ok with her knowing they were dating me etc.

I have been struggling recently to meet new women, and wouldn't consider online, but have never approached anyone when I have my child with me.

As a result I begin to get attatched to someone way too quickly if they get close to me, so I think I require more plates to stop this.

I don't know if anyone deals with the same thing, or if anyone has any tips for my situation, but I would be thankful for any help.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why not consider online? I am doing pretty good with POF. Logistics are tough with me too as I have kids at home, so sack time can be more scarce than I want, but getting dates is pretty easy.
 

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MOTU said:
Why not consider online? I am doing pretty good with POF. Logistics are tough with me too as I have kids at home, so sack time can be more scarce than I want, but getting dates is pretty easy.
Oh right, I have only heard bad things about online, and assume it was the low quality women?
POF is that the one?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MOTU

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PoZest said:
Oh right, I have only heard bad things about online, and assume it was the low quality women?
POF is that the one?
Ok fair enough that the quality can be questionable, but good enough to bang while you look for a keeper (assuming you want a keeper).
 

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Try Tinder. Possible same night f*cks.
 

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How old you are will give more direction...
 

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I'm 24, so not really the age of clubbing anymore or stuff like that.
I have tinder yeah but nothing really happened on there it seemed like it was just attention-seek type women and I stopped using... Got about 30 matches but hardly anyone replied.
 
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