Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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All of my favorite posters have been banned, bill.

They were all far from polite conversationalists.
That's because instead of saying "I find your ideas and course of action retarded because X, Y and Z" they said "you're a f@ggot" or some other direct personal insult.

Criticism is really important on this forum. I myself have been very harsh countless times, but instead of just aggressively hurling personal insults I try making constructive arguments about why I think what they're doing is stupid. I don't tell guys that they are stupid, big difference.

Many of your banned favorite posters often made great points, were good at cutting through the bullsh!t and didn't sugar coat it. The problem was that it got too personal and they couldn't stop themselves from throwing senseless insults at everyone who challenged them instead of using reasoning. It caused all sorts of issues on the forum as members retaliated and it infested every god damn discussion, rapidly degrading it into a sh!t throwing contest.

Such behavior kills fruitful discussions.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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but we're best friends now......?!:cool: have a good day man.

We all get that you miss spaz, he'll be tickled pink when he gets back.
You're my favorite poster.

Spaz already knows everything. We just skyped.

Here's a pic of us earlier this year, before covid hit

 

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You're funny my dear bored Tyte.....minus the pocket protector and 60's eyeglasses and add 2 or 3 inches in height and you're exactly how I pictured you(dark hair on right) or like the Van Wilder actor, wasshisname?


Spaz doesn't look like blondie, he looks like Jet Li a little bit. So I've imagined. Or like the alter ego of Rick.

There. Now its out that I've thought this(it felt too creepy that I had wrote that behind his back).

Its probably better posting publicly rather than PM's. You weren't believing my gender in PM's anyways, it is what it is.

P.S. I'm not him either. You know who you accused me of. Or him. or her/him.

I really am christie.
 
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That's because instead of saying "I find your ideas and course of action retarded because X, Y and Z" they said "you're a f@ggot" or some other direct personal insult.

Criticism is really important on this forum. I myself have been very harsh countless times, but instead of just aggressively hurling personal insults I try making constructive arguments about why I think what they're doing is stupid. I don't tell guys that they are stupid, big difference.

Many of your banned favorite posters often made great points, were good at cutting through the bullsh!t and didn't sugar coat it. The problem was that it got too personal and they couldn't stop themselves from throwing senseless insults at everyone who challenged them instead of using reasoning. It caused all sorts of issues on the forum as members retaliated and it infested every god damn discussion, rapidly degrading it into a sh!t throwing contest.

Such behavior kills fruitful discussions.
Again, I can't argue with that. All true.

But man, I miss burroughs. Fvcking legend
 

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Many banned people here over the years were also very popular. Rather than be humble about said popularity they let it go to their head and become assh0les. Just look at the list of members with the top 20 highest reaction scores. Good chance someone on that list will be banned soon. I have no one specific in mind, I just know the patterns. They play out over and over and over.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Many banned people here over the years were also very popular. Rather than be humble about said popularity they let it go to their head and become assh0les. Just look at the list of members with the top 20 highest reaction scores. Good chance someone on that list will be banned soon. I have no one specific in mind, I just know the patterns. They play out over and over and over.
Please let me know early when it’s my time. I will need time to prepare emotionally.:D
 

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yeah I remember that in his posts.

He also predicted the decline of PUA and surge of MGTOW.
Yeah, he used to spam it in every thread. With red ink. It was kind of annoying at the time. Turns out dude was a genius lol
 

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Get well soon, by the way.
Thanks very much. I don’t know if I mentioned I got taken down with two kidney stones on Thanksgiving. Brutal. I’m home now. I appreciate your well-wishes.
 

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Thanks very much. I don’t know if I mentioned I got taken down with two kidney stones on Thanksgiving. Brutal. I’m home now. I appreciate your well-wishes.
Two?!
My best friend had only one and he said it was the worst pain that he'd ever experienced. Wishing you a quick and painless recovery here as well.
 

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Yeah, but that's what's great about the internet: you can't punch me in the mouth.

Anonymity and no fear of repercussion is what's great about the internet.

You can't be brutally honest with people in real life, less you lose their friendship. On here, you can let it rain.

You know how many great things I've learned from @sshole posters on sousave? More than I have from people in real life.
TyTe, if u r reading this, then here's my advice to you.

Forums like these are like gardens that men created, where they get to think things and perhaps achieve some enlightenment along the way.

However it's always best to be a warrior in a garden then a gardener in war.

The real world we all step into everyday is war. You need to fight daily, not just to survive but to excel.

And for those of you that thinks it's better to train men into gardeners in a garden, well the results you see in urselfs, is the ultimate result of that way of thinking.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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