guys my convos with my gf have become boring. I cant think up of stuff to talk about when she calls me. My mind is kinda blank cuz their are no topics for me to talk about, there hard to think up of. Ill just be quiet trying to find things to relate to on what we are currently talking about. Ill get mentally lazy around my gurl idk why. What can I do. I need new thought patterns. thanks
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
i need to develop this issue cause i tend to talk to girls to long on the phone(1/2 hour to a2 hours). just ask the normal how as your day?,what did you do?,run off of those. i can make a conversation go for hours. be playful.
example
you "how was your day?"
her "great"
you"no way"
her "yes way"
you "what was so great about it?"
and when she is done talking,(if you had a more exciting day you could say something like )
you"thats cool and all but you cant beat my day"
her "hmm well then lets hear it"
stupid little lingo like that can go on for hours just make sure you through some c&f in there and put some steak on it.
example
you "how was your day?"
her "great"
you"no way"
her "yes way"
you "what was so great about it?"
and when she is done talking,(if you had a more exciting day you could say something like )
you"thats cool and all but you cant beat my day"
her "hmm well then lets hear it"
stupid little lingo like that can go on for hours just make sure you through some c&f in there and put some steak on it.
yeah
Yeah i do that,but Im pretty funny and convo like that is kinda boring, i want to have stimulating convo. Im really relaxed about myself and everything too. I guess what u guys are telling me to do is chill out but when I feel really good about myself I talk great
Yeah i do that,but Im pretty funny and convo like that is kinda boring, i want to have stimulating convo. Im really relaxed about myself and everything too. I guess what u guys are telling me to do is chill out but when I feel really good about myself I talk great
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
i guess
Im placing too much empahsis on being suave funny witty etc. I want to be more funny suave and witty than i already am, thas how i feel inside. Like who I am is not enough or not good enough, when i should be saying it is. It just doesnt feel like it is good enough. I want that warm fuzzy feeling about myself I love it, it gives me alot of confidence
Im placing too much empahsis on being suave funny witty etc. I want to be more funny suave and witty than i already am, thas how i feel inside. Like who I am is not enough or not good enough, when i should be saying it is. It just doesnt feel like it is good enough. I want that warm fuzzy feeling about myself I love it, it gives me alot of confidence