"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Need help with this one.. I'm confused

NewAndImproved

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OP, man, in college I was just like you.

Shyness, issues with confidence, having girls show that initial interest in you (I believe this girl WAS interested initially) and then landing into the friend zone...

It's a long arduous process but things can change if you dedicate yourself to that change. Do you want to be the same person five years from now that you are today?

If not, it's time to change.

The strange thing about social anxiety is that the very thing you don't want to do is the very thing you have to do. ACTIONS ("risky" actions, getting progressively riskier as yo go along) are what change FEELINGS (the anxiety inside). Not the other way around. There's no quick fix here. No hypnosis tapes, no pills...Believe me I tried in the past.

At work now but I'll PM you later.

For now I'll just say don't be so hard on yourself.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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NewAndImproved said:
OP, man, in college I was just like you.

Shyness, issues with confidence, having girls show that initial interest in you (I believe this girl WAS interested initially) and then landing into the friend zone...

It's a long arduous process but things can change if you dedicate yourself to that change. Do you want to be the same person five years from now that you are today?

If not, it's time to change.

The strange thing about social anxiety is that the very thing you don't want to do is the very thing you have to do. ACTIONS ("risky" actions, getting progressively riskier as yo go along) are what change FEELINGS (the anxiety inside). Not the other way around. There's no quick fix here. No hypnosis tapes, no pills...Believe me I tried in the past.

At work now but I'll PM you later.

For now I'll just say don't be so hard on yourself.
Thanks man I just don't know what to do anymore...
 

Lord Sidious

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Man, please just pay attention to what Pimp and Vatoloco wrote to you. They are 100% right!!!

You joined the most incredible forum, where you can learn tons of things about how to deal with women. So, do what you have to do - LEARN! :)


Take care, bro!



PS: Starting reading the DJ Bible and Pook as soon as you can!
 

borealis

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Lord Sidious said:
Man, please just pay attention to what Pimp and Vatoloco wrote to you. They are 100% right!!!

You joined the most incredible forum, where you can learn tons of things about how to deal with women. So, do what you have to do - LEARN! :)


Take care, bro!



PS: Starting reading the DJ Bible and Pook as soon as you can!
Thanks I will do that. Where can I find these?

I know they are right believe me.... It is just really hard for me
 
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