"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Need help with this one.. I'm confused

NewAndImproved

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OP, man, in college I was just like you.

Shyness, issues with confidence, having girls show that initial interest in you (I believe this girl WAS interested initially) and then landing into the friend zone...

It's a long arduous process but things can change if you dedicate yourself to that change. Do you want to be the same person five years from now that you are today?

If not, it's time to change.

The strange thing about social anxiety is that the very thing you don't want to do is the very thing you have to do. ACTIONS ("risky" actions, getting progressively riskier as yo go along) are what change FEELINGS (the anxiety inside). Not the other way around. There's no quick fix here. No hypnosis tapes, no pills...Believe me I tried in the past.

At work now but I'll PM you later.

For now I'll just say don't be so hard on yourself.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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NewAndImproved said:
OP, man, in college I was just like you.

Shyness, issues with confidence, having girls show that initial interest in you (I believe this girl WAS interested initially) and then landing into the friend zone...

It's a long arduous process but things can change if you dedicate yourself to that change. Do you want to be the same person five years from now that you are today?

If not, it's time to change.

The strange thing about social anxiety is that the very thing you don't want to do is the very thing you have to do. ACTIONS ("risky" actions, getting progressively riskier as yo go along) are what change FEELINGS (the anxiety inside). Not the other way around. There's no quick fix here. No hypnosis tapes, no pills...Believe me I tried in the past.

At work now but I'll PM you later.

For now I'll just say don't be so hard on yourself.
Thanks man I just don't know what to do anymore...
 

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Man, please just pay attention to what Pimp and Vatoloco wrote to you. They are 100% right!!!

You joined the most incredible forum, where you can learn tons of things about how to deal with women. So, do what you have to do - LEARN! :)


Take care, bro!



PS: Starting reading the DJ Bible and Pook as soon as you can!
 

borealis

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Lord Sidious said:
Man, please just pay attention to what Pimp and Vatoloco wrote to you. They are 100% right!!!

You joined the most incredible forum, where you can learn tons of things about how to deal with women. So, do what you have to do - LEARN! :)


Take care, bro!



PS: Starting reading the DJ Bible and Pook as soon as you can!
Thanks I will do that. Where can I find these?

I know they are right believe me.... It is just really hard for me
 
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