"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Need Help With Escaping Friend Zone

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I've been getting to know this chick for awhile and she has no phone so when I don't see her we communicate through e-mail. It's a bad way to communicate I know, but it's the only way when we don't see each other. Anyway, she said in an e-mail that "you already have a friend in me:)" Anyway, worried that I may be headed for the friend zone if I am not already, I need to respond in such a way that she knows I am interested in being more than friends. Is there a subtle way I can make this clear?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Go out and ask her on a date. Be straightforward. Call her if you can, or do it in person, and say:

Hi (name), lets go out to get a drink down at that martini bar this weekend. I'll get you at 8.

If she says she wont or whatever reason, or gives you LJBF, leave. If you arent interested in being her friend( like hanging out with her without sex etc) then just cease further contact.
 

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I'm definitely interested in her, but my big worry is responding to this e-mail and not saying anything like "I am glad to be your friend, thank you very much." I certainly don't want her to get the impresssion from an e-mail that I just want to be friends.
 

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Thanks for the link, good article. I hope I am not completely in the friend zone yet, but if I am, I guess it's worth trying to escape it.
 

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Originally posted by Ian19
I've been getting to know this chick for awhile and she has no phone so when I don't see her we communicate through e-mail. It's a bad way to communicate I know, but it's the only way when we don't see each other. Anyway, she said in an e-mail that "you already have a friend in me:)" Anyway, worried that I may be headed for the friend zone if I am not already, I need to respond in such a way that she knows I am interested in being more than friends. Is there a subtle way I can make this clear?
Reply with:

"And your first job as my new friend is to introduce me to all of your hot, single girlfriends. ;)"
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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