You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She is the one that started flirting with Me and she keeps it going.sodbuster said:
It doesn't matter; the bottom line is that if she was interested, she would have given you the number. Women flirt for any number of reasons (attention, validation, to tease guys, to practice etc.). It doesn't necessarily mean they are interested.timmylivingalie said:
Just because a woman is flirting with you does not mean she's interested. Many women flirt because they like attention from men...regardless of whether they are attracted to these men. Plus, being a cashier is not the most exciting job in the world. She's flirting with customers because she's bored.timmylivingalie said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I know this but I have noticed she flirts with me and ignores other guys. Yesterday I was in line with several younger dudes but she completely ignored them and flirted with me.Bokanovsky said: