"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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and the moral of this story is....

"shorty" flaked - oh so predictable. I made alternate plans anyway - knowing this was gonna happen. and I called the russian and we have a movie date for monday.

russian girl: we have no chemistry and I get a 2nd date. that my convo with her was a flop seems irrelevant now.

shorty: we have big time chemistry and she flakes

why?

date w/ russian was monday and I had zero contact since then, I call, I get a date.

conclusion: 4 days is normally a good wait time. but in this case I should double it to compensate for being such an idiot and calling shorty the next day. if I'm too available my value goes down. so I have to get scarce.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Re: and the moral of this story is....

Originally posted by ogre


1. "shorty" flaked - oh so predictable.

2. russian girl: we have no chemistry and I get a 2nd date. that my convo with her was a flop seems irrelevant now.
shorty: we have big time chemistry and she flakes
why?

3. conclusion:if I'm too available my value goes down. so I have to get scarce.
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1. If the date was 5 hours, most likely...you have being LJBF without the explicit statement. Conclusion? Dont do LOOONG dates. Prfereably end it after 1 hours, end it yourself...

2. Ha... the world is not spinning around you. YOU thought you had chemistry... she didn't. Besides all people here would tell you: chemistry is nothing... high IL is everything. If she shows high IL, you got the next date.
So... consider thinking in terms of IL to predict whether you will have a second date.
I just remind you: women tend to show high IL if they smell you are a dating material with ponetial, i.e. with "money", but they call it "he knows where he is going in life". Probably shorty was not impressed with your presentation of your "where I am going in life" an the russian seems is more impressed. Very simple.
I am sure you knew taht before...

3. Yes. I think most women even test men on how available he is directly: if he is too available, she will just write him off....
It is like a requirement you have to meet.
 
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ogre: try to avoid such long dates early in the game - from experience, we guys eventually become chumps as the minutes progress (by not cutting it off earlier) and/or bored/boring (again shoulda cut it off earlier!).
 
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