"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need help *URGENT*

Bratt2230

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Sorry, Never mind. skip this topic


- for the guys who had alredy replied and read this post... i Guess i forgot why i started ignoring here, and why i startet dating others (-: ... i guess i am just a bit desperate, i will have to kill it somehow :)

Thanks to 5string once again, and the rest of you in here (-:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Warrior74

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Do what you really want to do, and then learn from it. Sure you might get burned (I think you will) but you hopefully will be smart enough to learn so next time you won't have to go through this again. So go for it. See what she wants. Tell us what happens. I have some thoughts on how it will go down, but I'll wait and see.
 

5string

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Petari....have you forgotten what everyone told you last week about this girl?

Move on and see other women. This one has devalued you and is not worth your time.

She had her chance with you and blew it.
 

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*URGENT* There's nothing more "urgent" about this post than any of the other 1,000 "I'm obsessed with my ex" postings I read on here daily.

Aside from the fact that this is one of the most desperate things I've read on here in a while.
 

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You should just let this go. You hit the point of no return with the ""My life is going to end" thing. That killed something that was dying anyway, so don't beat yourself up.

I'm afraid your ego is playing big into this, my friend. You wanted her back specifically because you were denied her. I think the best thing you can do is to start to destroy that neediness inside you, that sense of having to get her back just because you are being denied.

Instead, shift your focus immediately to becoming a man who doesn't need one particular woman. Get into a mindset of absundance. There are loads of girls out there, and loads of girls who are better than her. You deserve a good woman, and you are above simply to reacting to the fact that she has a new boyfriend. It's not personal... It's game. It's reality.

You will free yourself if you let her go. I think your idea is perfect texting her back with your own frame, dictating when you are available. You're right, she probably will change her mind.

Take control of yourself and this situation. Declare it to be over, declare yourself to be a man who is worthy of much more, and declare yourself the KING of your life.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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