hi. i met this popular HB8 two months ago and we study together for a class every two weeks. two weeks after we met, i asked her to have dinner with me. she replied with "sure but as friends." so that is cue that i should NEXT her but i decided to just be friends. I still like her but i'm not going out of my way for her. i got other girls on the side. time to move on but we still study together as friends. lately, she is giving me mixed signals. for example, calling me up to see how my day was, sleeping on my shoulder one time while studying, taking my chapstick and using it while i was about to use it, etc. i didn't mind and just did my own thing. however, is that signs that she is starting to like me or she just wants attention because i'm not giving it to her? any advice will be appreciated.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
need help on this girl
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
sounds like you're her new girlfriend.
start being the boss around her, but make sure to next her, unless you like the attention and want to stay friends.
start being the boss around her, but make sure to next her, unless you like the attention and want to stay friends.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
good advice.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
Yes it seems to me your are in the friends zone, she probably will go to you to help her out when her "Real" boyfriend treats her like cr4p. I would try to show her that she isnt going to use your for her own selfish reasons, I mean why let her use your chap stick? I mean you dont know where those lips have been and it is an easy way to get herpes...but it is still your decision. Good luck and you should show her that if she isnt going to at least give you a shot then you should next her sorry ass.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
thanks. are you actually a girl?iqqi said:
iqqi
Master Don Juan
I am god.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
Spoken like a true UG who doesn't know what shes talking aboutiqqi said:I am god.
Also like someone non-religious haha.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
You are going to hell!Grand Wizzard Alamar said:Spoken like a true UG who doesn't know what shes talking about
Also like someone non-religious haha.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
yeah I'll be with the flaming hot chicks who died young while you're with the crusty ugly old AFC loser men up in heaven. hahaiqqi said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.