hi. i met this popular HB8 two months ago and we study together for a class every two weeks. two weeks after we met, i asked her to have dinner with me. she replied with "sure but as friends." so that is cue that i should NEXT her but i decided to just be friends. I still like her but i'm not going out of my way for her. i got other girls on the side. time to move on but we still study together as friends. lately, she is giving me mixed signals. for example, calling me up to see how my day was, sleeping on my shoulder one time while studying, taking my chapstick and using it while i was about to use it, etc. i didn't mind and just did my own thing. however, is that signs that she is starting to like me or she just wants attention because i'm not giving it to her? any advice will be appreciated.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
need help on this girl
- Thread starter dude04
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
sounds like you're her new girlfriend.
start being the boss around her, but make sure to next her, unless you like the attention and want to stay friends.
start being the boss around her, but make sure to next her, unless you like the attention and want to stay friends.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
good advice.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
Yes it seems to me your are in the friends zone, she probably will go to you to help her out when her "Real" boyfriend treats her like cr4p. I would try to show her that she isnt going to use your for her own selfish reasons, I mean why let her use your chap stick? I mean you dont know where those lips have been and it is an easy way to get herpes...but it is still your decision. Good luck and you should show her that if she isnt going to at least give you a shot then you should next her sorry ass.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
thanks. are you actually a girl?iqqi said:
iqqi
Master Don Juan
I am god.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
Spoken like a true UG who doesn't know what shes talking aboutiqqi said:I am god.
Also like someone non-religious haha.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
You are going to hell!Grand Wizzard Alamar said:Spoken like a true UG who doesn't know what shes talking about
Also like someone non-religious haha.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
yeah I'll be with the flaming hot chicks who died young while you're with the crusty ugly old AFC loser men up in heaven. hahaiqqi said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.