hi. i met this popular HB8 two months ago and we study together for a class every two weeks. two weeks after we met, i asked her to have dinner with me. she replied with "sure but as friends." so that is cue that i should NEXT her but i decided to just be friends. I still like her but i'm not going out of my way for her. i got other girls on the side. time to move on but we still study together as friends. lately, she is giving me mixed signals. for example, calling me up to see how my day was, sleeping on my shoulder one time while studying, taking my chapstick and using it while i was about to use it, etc. i didn't mind and just did my own thing. however, is that signs that she is starting to like me or she just wants attention because i'm not giving it to her? any advice will be appreciated.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
need help on this girl
- Thread starter dude04
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
sounds like you're her new girlfriend.
start being the boss around her, but make sure to next her, unless you like the attention and want to stay friends.
start being the boss around her, but make sure to next her, unless you like the attention and want to stay friends.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
good advice.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
Yes it seems to me your are in the friends zone, she probably will go to you to help her out when her "Real" boyfriend treats her like cr4p. I would try to show her that she isnt going to use your for her own selfish reasons, I mean why let her use your chap stick? I mean you dont know where those lips have been and it is an easy way to get herpes...but it is still your decision. Good luck and you should show her that if she isnt going to at least give you a shot then you should next her sorry ass.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
thanks. are you actually a girl?iqqi said:
iqqi
Master Don Juan
I am god.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
Spoken like a true UG who doesn't know what shes talking aboutiqqi said:I am god.
Also like someone non-religious haha.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
You are going to hell!Grand Wizzard Alamar said:Spoken like a true UG who doesn't know what shes talking about
Also like someone non-religious haha.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
yeah I'll be with the flaming hot chicks who died young while you're with the crusty ugly old AFC loser men up in heaven. hahaiqqi said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.