"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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NickBe

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Since he has nothing to lose he might aswell give his number
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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dude i'm working on weekends as a bartender,
(yes i did go to bartending school )
well
1) don't go alot of times to ask her for a drink. you'll bore her, she's busy making money.
2) go for the kill almost when you're about to bounce to another place, always have a back-up place to go. don't complimen t too much OK.
ASk her for a 007 drink, you know:
absolut orange citron vodka, orange juice, 7 up = 007

3) follow LIl devil little conversation.practice to get it right then make eye contact, when you trying out the drink in front of her.
"Hmm, it's.... refreshing, nice , you didn't undercount "
(you building anticipation , she will look at you when you say that )


4) Ask her then "Hey ,I gotta go my friend's hosting a party at this other club thanks for the double 0, then do the deangelo technique of turning her digits, no email and tell her "maybe get together after work and maybe you'll get lucky ... share recipes." (you breaking the ice barrier bartender-customer and not being intimidated by her, by then she'll be curious who you are, keeping her Dangling...oohh)

5) You can modify this OK doesn't have to be word for word, ****y smile and eye contact After you get the drink will determine .

Guys what do think?
 

jigga23

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i went back to the bar she was at. but i was kind of fvcked up. she knows two of my roomates. one was talking to her and we ordered a drink but i just sat at the bar with my back sort of towards her.

as for giving my number ive done it before and the girl usually calls never tried it with a bartender but will try it ill probably just buy a drink say whats up flirt real fast shell bring back the tab ill write my number on a coaster and write call me.
 
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