Leprechaun2013
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She's banging the friend.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
need help .. fvcked tup bad
- Thread starter Jair213
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
RagingBalls
Senior Don Juan
Jair, it might not happen right now but she'll realize how selfish she had been for her action/reaction. She could've called you and not wait for your call/text. Where's her concern for you when all she did was wait? And now you are being "punished" for not living to her expectations regardless of what happens to you.
It's her way of holding you by the neck and it looks like you fall into that emotional trap.
All i know is, when your girl do that to you, you are not supposed to be worried, you are supposed to be disappointed by her actions, you might get a little mad about it too, because she only thinks about herself.
It's her way of holding you by the neck and it looks like you fall into that emotional trap.
All i know is, when your girl do that to you, you are not supposed to be worried, you are supposed to be disappointed by her actions, you might get a little mad about it too, because she only thinks about herself.
VikingKing
Banned
Man. You need to just let this go and move forward. Cut contact, just do it, action.
When you cut contact, she will come running, but it will be for ego validation.
When you cut contact, she will come running, but it will be for ego validation.
As you reminded us OP, it's a long distance relationship. So you're not getting regular sex with this girl, you're missing out on sex with other girls (assuming you're being faithful which I hope for your sake you're not) and clearly this girl has a princessy, spoiled personality
So what exactly are you getting from this relationship?
So what exactly are you getting from this relationship?
Jair213
Master Don Juan
Broke up with her. I told her that things weren't working out.
And other things.
Last thing she said was this
Her. You don't even say whatt you think, not even for things like this. It's astonishing what your pride could be able to do. Bye
Witch I didn't respond too.
And other things.
Last thing she said was this
Her. You don't even say whatt you think, not even for things like this. It's astonishing what your pride could be able to do. Bye
Witch I didn't respond too.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Peaks&Valleys
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Boom. Nice job man.Jair213 said:
Think you may be getting a text in a week or two, in which, I wouldn't respond to either.
GotED?
Master Don Juan
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Too many recent threads on LDR so I am not going to sing my LDR soprano masterpiece again here.
Count your blessing you DID the dumping and get it over with.
Just Say NO to LDR.
All the worrying, trust issues, jealousy, possessiveness, loneliness, aloneliness, money wasted on phone calls/traveling, the despair of no hope to close the distance issue long term is ALL A MAJOR WASTE OF LIFE.
Be well
Exodus
Count your blessing you DID the dumping and get it over with.
Just Say NO to LDR.
All the worrying, trust issues, jealousy, possessiveness, loneliness, aloneliness, money wasted on phone calls/traveling, the despair of no hope to close the distance issue long term is ALL A MAJOR WASTE OF LIFE.
Be well
Exodus
goldengoose
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I really don't see any point to your advice. She lost interest, ignored him. is fighting with him, has another guy. Why should he wait to put up with 2 more weeks of that sh1t? Do you think it's going to get any better? Why should he reply to her texts when she ignores his? You want him to have 2 more weeks of that? Betas wait instead of getting out, she would of dumped him if he didn't end it. Some guys really need to grow a pair when initiating a break up. Don't get into LDR's either, it's a waste of time and money.Mauser96 said:
Jair213 said:
She didn't seem too broken up about it. That's good you got out before she ended it. That's what would of happened if you waited 2 more weeks.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.