Need Help By Today Please Just Some Advice!!

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ok well, ive been postin some forums and basically im going through a break up and i want the girl back, so ive been avoiding contact with her for a couple days now, but her birthday is TOMORROW and i already got her a gift. what should i do? should i go out with her on a dinner date etc. etc. and give her the present. and IF i do how should i act? should i kiss her and hold her or should i act like friends?..note: she has feelings for some other man already and i feel if i dont make a move to say happy birthday, she will and her feelings will grow for him. what should i do? PLEASE HELP?!

 

[WRX_is_like_SEX]

Wtf?

OK . . . .So what was the cause of your breakup with bird??? This may help us to help you!

 

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she took me for granted, so i got mad i gnored her, we got into big fights ( she wouldnt give me my space ) but after i had my space, now she doesnt want to be " in a relationship " - bull****.

 

[Desdinova]

im going through a break up and i want the girl back

Good luck

but her birthday is TOMORROW and i already got her a gift. what should i do?

Return the gift and get your money back. Or, if it's something you could use, keep it.

should i kiss her and hold her or should i act like friends?

Have you even thought about doing NOTHING for her? Why does she deserve a gift, a dinner, and to be kissed?

note: she has feelings for some other man already and i feel if i dont make a move to say happy birthday, she will and her feelings will grow for him.

Now, here's some harsh reality for you to face: Her feelings have ALREADY grown for this other dude. If she's in the process of ditching you, she feels nothing for you and probably has felt nothing for quite a while. She's already infatuated with another dude, and it's likely she's already gone out with him behind your back.

It's time to move on and date other women.

 

[Desdinova]

she took me for granted

Women take men for granted when they don't respect him. You probably spoiled the 5hit out of her, and she ended up taking advantage of your generousity.

 

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so should i at least call to say happy birthday?

 

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desdinova you got aim or something?

 

[ye yeah]

if you call give her a gift etc and it dosent work out and she wants the other guy anyway u lost all power.and u'll regret it right?

u dont call/give her a gift,no loss

me personally.send a txt saying happy birthday,no more then that

 

[WRX_is_like_SEX]

My friend . . .

.. . . .Does it not seem like you are about to shoot yourself in the foot again . .You tell me she took you for granted et.c - and you are discussing about taking her out for dinner and perhaps giving her a present . . .:crazy: . . .

. . . .Its perhaps none of my business, but why would you want someone like that back .:flowers: . .And you say she has feeling for another guy . .So if you indeed do as suggested, whats there to say she won't take you for granted even further . .

. . . . . .Speaking from personal experience, when you break up with a girl, you go through the blues, and want her back - you miss the company, the sex, the conversation - and you feel like you "love" her(especially if she's good looking), and would go to any lengths to get her back . .And yes . .I've got back together with girls after a break up - but it usually leads nowhere but a dead end . . .

So. .What you are suggesting, for a load of crap from her, you want to supplicate her with dinner and a present . . .Easier said than done, but I think its best to forget her . .. . . .And save yr present . .\If you still have a recipt, get yr money back . .

 

[insanity]

good call desdinova. don't reward her with a gift... if she calls and asks how come you never called to wish her a happy birthday, just say you had a date or something. if you proceed to call her or show up with a gift, she won't be thinking "my hero" she'll really be thinking "sucker!"

 

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honest guys, youve all heard this before countless times, but this girl IS the love of my life, i fvckin KNOW it. so basically you guys are all saying that chances of us gettin together again are mininal as hell.. oh and FIY, we were engaged.. =/

 

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last thing, she was talkin to my friends and heres convo.
Friend: so you really dont want to be with him huh
Ex: No, its not the same anymore
Friend: ouch never?
Ex: no i didnt say that, i just want to start over, be friends and start from there again, i stil love him of course no doubt about that.

WHAT THE FVCK DOES THAT MEAN?

 

[WRX_is_like_SEX]

Women take men for granted when they don't respect him. You probably spoiled the 5hit out of her, and she ended up taking advantage of your generousity.

Nice one Des! . . .I second that! . .

. . . . .Formation . . . .Get a grip . .Really . . :cuss:

 

[Hitman10000]

Give her space, let her date around, talk to her a couple months to a year from now.

 

[Vulpine]

Ex: no i didnt say that, i just want to start over, be friends and start from there again, i stil love him of course no doubt about that.

WHAT THE FVCK DOES THAT MEAN?

******** translation:

I'm bored and want to fuq this hot guy I met. This way, he'll appreciate/spoil me even more when I let him get back with me.


Right about now you should be hearing the:
"BZZZZT"
and seeing:
[X][X][X]
Like on "Family Feud".

Next. Get cash for the gift and spend it on something sweet for yourself.

 

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alright guys. thanks i appreciate the help. QUESTION: if she calls me to "hang out" or whatever what should i say or should i not pick up at all??... WHEN WOULD BE A GOOD TIME TO START ANSWERING HER CALLS AGAIN.

 

[Vulpine]

"Never" is a good goal to strive for.

Why would you pick up the phone? So she can play guilt games and make you feel miserable? So she can tell you how great the sex is with her new man? Unless she owes you money, don't answer the phone. Even then, it depends how much money she owes.

The best revenge you can exact on her is to live your life to the fullest and let her hear how great you are doing from your friends - not you.

 

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vulpine thank you, but i really want to work things out LATER in life, not now while im so hurt and broken, and of course im going to date around and have my women, but what i meant is should i at least be her friend later on. and how long down the road should i start to answer her calls?? i dont want to cut her out of my life forever

 

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There's not much I can say that you would be ready to understand right now. You will understand everything I say on a rational level, and you will think you already know it. Then you will read it and go out and post the same stupid posts (ps all my posts are stupid so there's no problem with that). On an emotional level, you are exaggerating to the stars.

First of all, take a deep breath. You're not the first person this has ever happened to, you are not the last, you will not be the last. It probably doesn't feel like it.

"honest guys, youve all heard this before countless times, but this girl IS the love of my life"

I know it feels like it. I've been there - lots of people on this board have been there. Losing some chick that you love sucks. But you're exaggerating. Every human being is equally beautiful. There are millions of gorgeous women that are right for us, even in our country, state, province, city etc.! So this woman was one of millions who could be a love of your life. So what?!

Third and by far the most important: do you feel like you could get a chick as wonderful as her within the next year? If not, THAT IS the problem, not the loss of this one chick out of 3 billion on earth.

Use the pain, the hurt as motivation to fix your life, your emotions, and your desperation starting right now. You don't have time to wait!

Give the girl the gift, as thanks for all your great times together. She deserves it. You've had such wonderful times.

Besides, she will be responsible for your new, better life - if you're smart enough to start it. Give her the gift. She sounds like a nice kid, I'm sure she's great.

When I came to this board, everyone told me: "If she wants friendship, it's almost certainly over." And I didn't believe them. I thought my relationship was different. Everybody does. Through experience, I learned better.

Since you certainly do not believe me (as nobody in your shoes does), I encourage you to try with every means you have to win her back. You probably won't, but at least you'll know you tried. Right?

Experience teaches better than anything I can do or say.

One last thing. Some people say that time heals all wounds. I don't believe this at all. Time buries all wounds. If you want to *heal* wounds, you have to use a different tack.

 

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There's not much I can say that you would be ready to understand right now. You will understand everything I say on a rational level, and you will think you already know it. Then you will read it and go out and post the same stupid posts (ps all my posts are stupid so there's no problem with that). On an emotional level, you are exaggerating to the stars.

First of all, take a deep breath. You're not the first person this has ever happened to, you are not the last, you will not be the last. It probably doesn't feel like it.

"honest guys, youve all heard this before countless times, but this girl IS the love of my life"

I know it feels like it. I've been there - lots of people on this board have been there. Losing some chick that you love sucks. But you're exaggerating. Every human being is equally beautiful. There are millions of gorgeous women that are right for us, even in our country, state, province, city etc.! So this woman was one of millions who could be a love of your life. So what?!

Third and by far the most important: do you feel like you could get a chick as wonderful as her within the next year? If not, THAT IS the problem, not the loss of this one chick out of 3 billion on earth.

Use the pain, the hurt as motivation to fix your life, your emotions, and your desperation starting right now. You don't have time to wait!

Give the girl the gift, as thanks for all your great times together. She deserves it. You've had such wonderful times.

Besides, she will be responsible for your new, better life - if you're smart enough to start it. Give her the gift. She sounds like a nice kid, I'm sure she's great.

When I came to this board, everyone told me: "If she wants friendship, it's almost certainly over." And I didn't believe them. I thought my relationship was different. Everybody does. Through experience, I learned better.

Since you certainly do not believe me (as nobody in your shoes does), I encourage you to try with every means you have to win her back. You probably won't, but at least you'll know you tried. Right?

Experience teaches better than anything I can do or say.

One last thing. Some people say that time heals all wounds. I don't believe this at all. Time buries all wounds. If you want to *heal* wounds, you have to use a different tack.

thats what kills me all the time... if i wont, theres no point of hurting myself again.