"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ser_Jacobin

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Ok so Im 17 and I have never had a girlfriend but there is this girl I like...shes amazing artist and into music like myself though I dont personally know her...I dont know what I would say or go about asking her out =/ I dont even know if she knows I exist...also Im extremly shy and Im afraid of getting hurt =/ it would be great if you guys could help out
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I would take a few months to actually sort your life out, get some hobbies and make yourself seem more interesting. Join a gym, lift weights it will definately boost your confidence...join a few clubs that you will enjoy, expand your social circle.
Read the DJ Bible.

After this, you should be ready to take your first steps.

Best of luck my friend...Please keep us updated!
 

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First you need to work on yourself. Try getting out of your comfort zone a bit by doing things that you usually wouldn't do, if you don't wanna be "shy", to build up your confidence.

Oh also adopt this belief. Being with me is the best thing that a woman can do. Just keep on saying it to yourself and the effects will happen immediately. This belif can help you out in many ways. One way that i could is... lets say you get rejected by her (I'm not saying that will happen, I'm no predictor of the future) you will realize that she is missing out because shes choosing not to be with the best possible choice.
A person without this belief would just break down and cry....

well there ya go heres some tools. its ur job to use um ~.^
 

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I do have hobbies...guitar, drawing, and artistic things and I have a decent amount of confidence as of late...Im happy with who I am its just my problem is I dont know how to approach her...I dont wanna seem creepy or anything
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Read the Bible....Start with THE BOOK OF POOK(Its a must)
 

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oh yeah I dont know if I should mention...Ive had this crush since the last quarter of last school year and I wouldnt be able to personally talk to her till a few weeks but I do know her myspace...itd be possible to send her a message but idk...maybe Im not a good risk taker
 

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DAMN THAT IS THE PROBLEM WITH EVERYONE!!! I KNOW!!!! EXEPT FOR A FEW PEOPLE. THEY ARE TOO DAMN NEGETIVE. be positive ~.^ it works trust me. Also keep this belif in your mind.

"It's always on"

-if she talks to you you know that shes interested.

-if she laughs with you, shes interested

-if she moves shes interested.

i use this to relive some of the stress put on me.



If your positive good things will happen.... Go try studying NLP it really really helps.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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neuro-languistic programming. it may take a while to learn, but it really helps. You could learn it all in about 30 days. If you watch one 2 hour seminar each day. What nlp does is it allows you can change your perspective of the world and the other peoples thinking pretty quickly. Some people that use this skill are hostage negotiators and pick up artists. But the thing is most people don't wanna spend 30 days learning it, and want a quick fix.
 

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so I was riding around on my bike and I happened to see this particular girl and I was passing by her I looked at her, smiled and managed to say hi and she returned the smile and said hi back...a small victory but a victory to me none the less to me
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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