"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ser_Jacobin

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Ok so Im 17 and I have never had a girlfriend but there is this girl I like...shes amazing artist and into music like myself though I dont personally know her...I dont know what I would say or go about asking her out =/ I dont even know if she knows I exist...also Im extremly shy and Im afraid of getting hurt =/ it would be great if you guys could help out
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I would take a few months to actually sort your life out, get some hobbies and make yourself seem more interesting. Join a gym, lift weights it will definately boost your confidence...join a few clubs that you will enjoy, expand your social circle.
Read the DJ Bible.

After this, you should be ready to take your first steps.

Best of luck my friend...Please keep us updated!
 

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First you need to work on yourself. Try getting out of your comfort zone a bit by doing things that you usually wouldn't do, if you don't wanna be "shy", to build up your confidence.

Oh also adopt this belief. Being with me is the best thing that a woman can do. Just keep on saying it to yourself and the effects will happen immediately. This belif can help you out in many ways. One way that i could is... lets say you get rejected by her (I'm not saying that will happen, I'm no predictor of the future) you will realize that she is missing out because shes choosing not to be with the best possible choice.
A person without this belief would just break down and cry....

well there ya go heres some tools. its ur job to use um ~.^
 

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I do have hobbies...guitar, drawing, and artistic things and I have a decent amount of confidence as of late...Im happy with who I am its just my problem is I dont know how to approach her...I dont wanna seem creepy or anything
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Read the Bible....Start with THE BOOK OF POOK(Its a must)
 

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oh yeah I dont know if I should mention...Ive had this crush since the last quarter of last school year and I wouldnt be able to personally talk to her till a few weeks but I do know her myspace...itd be possible to send her a message but idk...maybe Im not a good risk taker
 

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DAMN THAT IS THE PROBLEM WITH EVERYONE!!! I KNOW!!!! EXEPT FOR A FEW PEOPLE. THEY ARE TOO DAMN NEGETIVE. be positive ~.^ it works trust me. Also keep this belif in your mind.

"It's always on"

-if she talks to you you know that shes interested.

-if she laughs with you, shes interested

-if she moves shes interested.

i use this to relive some of the stress put on me.



If your positive good things will happen.... Go try studying NLP it really really helps.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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neuro-languistic programming. it may take a while to learn, but it really helps. You could learn it all in about 30 days. If you watch one 2 hour seminar each day. What nlp does is it allows you can change your perspective of the world and the other peoples thinking pretty quickly. Some people that use this skill are hostage negotiators and pick up artists. But the thing is most people don't wanna spend 30 days learning it, and want a quick fix.
 

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so I was riding around on my bike and I happened to see this particular girl and I was passing by her I looked at her, smiled and managed to say hi and she returned the smile and said hi back...a small victory but a victory to me none the less to me
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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