"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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weepingrose

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I have this problem with thinking, i'm always dwelling on things. let me explain

Whenever something happens to me, i get caught up in that situation, i keep thinking about over and over. It drives me crazy.

So where this fits into relationships and women.

As soon as i meet a girl that's nice to me and is pretty good looking. I keep thinking about her.

I know a few really good lookin single girls and i have their numbers, so i'll end up txting to them too much and getting too invovled.

I really don't know too many girls so i keep going back to those girls. I'm not old enough to go to clubs or bars so it's harder for me to meet women.

I need some control over this so i dont keep obsessing and driving myself crzy.

It's pretty pathedic, i know , please give me some advice.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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weepingrose

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Yeah that's ultimatley what i need to do. But i need help on those steps getting there.
 

K-Kov

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My best advice to you man is to get more going on in your life. Not to be mean, but you seem like you have too much free time on your hands for your head to keep drifting back to these same girls.

Take up a martial art, a sport, a hobby or trade. I know others will agree with me that you need to get things going in your life and work on improving yourself before others will feel like you're worth their time. Not only will this give you other things to focus your attention on, but when you eventually start meeting more girls it'll give you a higher value to them (thanks mystery method!).

I know this seems counter-intuitive at first, but if you have things going on in your life as important to you as getting girls...the getting girls seems to take care of itself almost, haha.

Best of luck
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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sosilky

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DonS said:
Get a freaking life that you are building for yourself, and so help me god, if you ever join another website and you give yourself the user name of "weeping rose", I will track you down and beat you with a pipe.

LOL I haven't been here in a while and I just thought I'd drop in and see what things are like around here latlely...looks like not much has changed, same old negativity...so funny come check this out guys www.RSDNation.com this place is awsome for DonJuans who are ready to evolve. SoSuave is just a stepping stone.
 

I'm Charming

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DonS said:
Get a freaking life that you are building for yourself, and so help me god, if you ever join another website and you give yourself the user name of "weeping rose", I will track you down and beat you with a pipe.
Steady on mate, that aggressive tone is not helping anyone.

sosilky said:
LOL I haven't been here in a while and I just thought I'd drop in and see what things are like around here latlely...looks like not much has changed, same old negativity...so funny come check this out guys www.RSDNation.com this place is awsome for DonJuans who are ready to evolve. SoSuave is just a stepping stone.
I'll have a look. Always nice to have some new reading material.
 

Mavrick

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sosilky said:
LOL I haven't been here in a while and I just thought I'd drop in and see what things are like around here latlely...looks like not much has changed, same old negativity...so funny come check this out guys www.RSDNation.com this place is awsome for DonJuans who are ready to evolve. SoSuave is just a stepping stone.
Sup, sosilky? Ltns
 

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This happens because you believe in your mind that being in a relationship with women fulfill some deep emotional need.
One way is to be with a lot of women until you don't have this need anymore and another way is to be in relationships with women but at the same time to cut off all these emotional things.
Search in your mind for beliefs that are linked with having lots of women in your life and cut the links. Question the links between the cause and the effects and cut them.
 

weepingrose

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darkme_legendary said:
This happens because you believe in your mind that being in a relationship with women fulfill some deep emotional need.
One way is to be with a lot of women until you don't have this need anymore and another way is to be in relationships with women but at the same time to cut off all these emotional things.
Search in your mind for beliefs that are linked with having lots of women in your life and cut the links. Question the links between the cause and the effects and cut them.

Thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ready123

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sosilky said:
LOL I haven't been here in a while and I just thought I'd drop in and see what things are like around here latlely...looks like not much has changed, same old negativity...so funny come check this out guys www.RSDNation.com this place is awsome for DonJuans who are ready to evolve. SoSuave is just a stepping stone.
yea they got an awesome board over there
 
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