basically one of my better friends has liked this girl for 3 years and shes never been intrested in him as anything more than a friend. a couple nights ago we drinking and me and her fooled around. he found out from someone that was there and now hates my guts. i understand it was a **** move but she admits to being all over me and that i was just ****ed up and went along with it, but he dosn't even listen to me or her. ive tryed to help him get over he in the past but that never worked. so basically what the hell do i do?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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- Thread starter gdi
- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Damian
Senior Don Juan
Look, if he's the kind of absolute AFC that will hold a girl on a pedestal like that, you can't really reason with him. Apparently, he's already staked a claim on something that he doesn't even have. His unhealthy obsession with this girl has him furious at you simply because you have gotten something that he hasn't. Disregard his irrational emotions because he is being immature and idiotic. If he really wants to sit down and talk, you don't need to justify yourself. Practice your Alpha tactics and reverse the roles. Make him justify his "staked claim" on a girl that he's known for three years but never had a relationship with. Question his dedication to YOU as a friend because he has unfair and immature standards. Be calm, in control, and diplomatic and you will be able to run circles around this guy.
-Damian
-Damian
i still havn't made a decision about this. so say i pick the girl then i get the rep of a guy who backstabbed one of his best friends for a girl and i mean its highschool it won't last, but the reputation will and i dunno. thanks for the advice though.