Took a girl out to lunch yesterday. Went well and I hugged her and said it was good seeing her and that I had to go (had a meeting). That was yesterday, so my questions is, since that was our first time meeting up, when should I call her? Should I send a text? Was going to call her tomorrow and ask her for Drinks Monday, She doesn't work weekdays and Sunday is Easter so I can't ask her for that. Should I send a text right now saying I had fun and I'll talk to her soon? What's the best way to go about this?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Give it a few days then call, preferably on a weekday evening, small talk for a few mins then tell her to join you for an evening. And escalate this time around or else you'll become her friend.
If it goes to voicemail, then say you'll catch her at another time - the idea is to get her in person. If you call again some days after that and it goes to VM again, don't leave one and delete the number.
Don't text much if at all in the beginning, you can let up off that rule after you've done her.
If it goes to voicemail, then say you'll catch her at another time - the idea is to get her in person. If you call again some days after that and it goes to VM again, don't leave one and delete the number.
Don't text much if at all in the beginning, you can let up off that rule after you've done her.
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You rang her cell right, so she will see your missed call, and you are going to phone her again tomorrow and leave a message?Falcon25 said:
I would not phone her tomorrow, if she has any kind of interest level in you she would phone you back. The fact she missed your call in the first place and has not phoned you back yet is not a positive.
Kailex
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You did your part.Falcon25 said:
You called... you left a message...
If she never calls back, then you know what's up.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Hey Kailex,
When I called, I didn't leave a message. I just hung up. But I saw her last night at the club and she was pretty drunk and all over like ten dudes. I was hittin on a girl right next to her the entire time so that was good. After I saw her actions last night, I deleted the number and everything. Party girl and she's 28 yrs old. I don't need that. I'll sleep with her if I get a chance but I won't date her. Thanks to the three of you for your responses.
When I called, I didn't leave a message. I just hung up. But I saw her last night at the club and she was pretty drunk and all over like ten dudes. I was hittin on a girl right next to her the entire time so that was good. After I saw her actions last night, I deleted the number and everything. Party girl and she's 28 yrs old. I don't need that. I'll sleep with her if I get a chance but I won't date her. Thanks to the three of you for your responses.