Took a girl out to lunch yesterday. Went well and I hugged her and said it was good seeing her and that I had to go (had a meeting). That was yesterday, so my questions is, since that was our first time meeting up, when should I call her? Should I send a text? Was going to call her tomorrow and ask her for Drinks Monday, She doesn't work weekdays and Sunday is Easter so I can't ask her for that. Should I send a text right now saying I had fun and I'll talk to her soon? What's the best way to go about this?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Give it a few days then call, preferably on a weekday evening, small talk for a few mins then tell her to join you for an evening. And escalate this time around or else you'll become her friend.
If it goes to voicemail, then say you'll catch her at another time - the idea is to get her in person. If you call again some days after that and it goes to VM again, don't leave one and delete the number.
Don't text much if at all in the beginning, you can let up off that rule after you've done her.
If it goes to voicemail, then say you'll catch her at another time - the idea is to get her in person. If you call again some days after that and it goes to VM again, don't leave one and delete the number.
Don't text much if at all in the beginning, you can let up off that rule after you've done her.
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You rang her cell right, so she will see your missed call, and you are going to phone her again tomorrow and leave a message?Falcon25 said:
I would not phone her tomorrow, if she has any kind of interest level in you she would phone you back. The fact she missed your call in the first place and has not phoned you back yet is not a positive.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
You did your part.Falcon25 said:
You called... you left a message...
If she never calls back, then you know what's up.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Hey Kailex,
When I called, I didn't leave a message. I just hung up. But I saw her last night at the club and she was pretty drunk and all over like ten dudes. I was hittin on a girl right next to her the entire time so that was good. After I saw her actions last night, I deleted the number and everything. Party girl and she's 28 yrs old. I don't need that. I'll sleep with her if I get a chance but I won't date her. Thanks to the three of you for your responses.
When I called, I didn't leave a message. I just hung up. But I saw her last night at the club and she was pretty drunk and all over like ten dudes. I was hittin on a girl right next to her the entire time so that was good. After I saw her actions last night, I deleted the number and everything. Party girl and she's 28 yrs old. I don't need that. I'll sleep with her if I get a chance but I won't date her. Thanks to the three of you for your responses.