Took a girl out to lunch yesterday. Went well and I hugged her and said it was good seeing her and that I had to go (had a meeting). That was yesterday, so my questions is, since that was our first time meeting up, when should I call her? Should I send a text? Was going to call her tomorrow and ask her for Drinks Monday, She doesn't work weekdays and Sunday is Easter so I can't ask her for that. Should I send a text right now saying I had fun and I'll talk to her soon? What's the best way to go about this?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Give it a few days then call, preferably on a weekday evening, small talk for a few mins then tell her to join you for an evening. And escalate this time around or else you'll become her friend.
If it goes to voicemail, then say you'll catch her at another time - the idea is to get her in person. If you call again some days after that and it goes to VM again, don't leave one and delete the number.
Don't text much if at all in the beginning, you can let up off that rule after you've done her.
If it goes to voicemail, then say you'll catch her at another time - the idea is to get her in person. If you call again some days after that and it goes to VM again, don't leave one and delete the number.
Don't text much if at all in the beginning, you can let up off that rule after you've done her.
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You rang her cell right, so she will see your missed call, and you are going to phone her again tomorrow and leave a message?Falcon25 said:
I would not phone her tomorrow, if she has any kind of interest level in you she would phone you back. The fact she missed your call in the first place and has not phoned you back yet is not a positive.
Kailex
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You did your part.Falcon25 said:
You called... you left a message...
If she never calls back, then you know what's up.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Hey Kailex,
When I called, I didn't leave a message. I just hung up. But I saw her last night at the club and she was pretty drunk and all over like ten dudes. I was hittin on a girl right next to her the entire time so that was good. After I saw her actions last night, I deleted the number and everything. Party girl and she's 28 yrs old. I don't need that. I'll sleep with her if I get a chance but I won't date her. Thanks to the three of you for your responses.
When I called, I didn't leave a message. I just hung up. But I saw her last night at the club and she was pretty drunk and all over like ten dudes. I was hittin on a girl right next to her the entire time so that was good. After I saw her actions last night, I deleted the number and everything. Party girl and she's 28 yrs old. I don't need that. I'll sleep with her if I get a chance but I won't date her. Thanks to the three of you for your responses.