"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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rayv12

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Random girl(HB7) i meet gave me her number and asked me a favour to which i agreed. she is cool talking on the phone (anything including sex) and when i asked her to meet me she just doesn't want to. Says has a boyfriend and just wants me to talk with her midnight ! ( which is not gonna happen) . What leads to such behaviour? why a girl would do that ? What if your gf is doing something like that?

Curiosity!

ps i just dumped my oneitis because of a her flakiness, i miss her but things need to be taken care of, and this chick is really tempting me ( i say it to myself "There is something wrong with her")
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Thorninmyside

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She's all talk. She doesn't want to meet you. What's to think about?
 

AttackFormation

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You are what's called an "orbiter" to her. This means the girl keeps you around for stuff like favors, validation, emotional comforting, chit-chat to pass the time when she's bored, perhaps leading you on for fun (and again for validation) etc. without letting you get physical with her. Basically you are her male girlfriend. Not more complicated than that and nothing you need to "think" about.
 

rayv12

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You are what's called an "orbiter" to her. This means the girl keeps you around for stuff like favors, validation, emotional comforting, chit-chat to pass the time when she's bored, perhaps leading you on for fun (and again for validation) etc. without letting you get physical with her. Basically you are her male girlfriend. Not more complicated than that and nothing you need to "think" about.
thankyou,
and What if your gf is doing something like that? would you dump her?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Mr Wright

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It's quite simple, if you're not banging this girl, she is adding nothing to your life only leeching from it. It's destroying your vibe and confusing you. Cut her off, if she comes running back, invite her over, if she refuses. It's goodbye again.
 

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In general, for ever 4 numbers you get, one won't write back, and another won't go anywhere. You need to get 10-20 numbers or so to get sex usually.
 

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thankyou,
and What if your gf is doing something like that? would you dump her?
Men want sex, women want validation. It's standard behavior for girls to have and seek orbiters. If you dumped girls because they have them you'd have to dump 99,9% of women. Just don't waste your time in situations where you're the orbiter.
 

rayv12

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Men want sex, women want validation. It's standard behavior for girls to have and seek orbiters. If you dumped girls because they have them you'd have to dump 99,9% of women. Just don't waste your time in situations where you're the orbiter.
clear! thanks
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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sph21

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A girl who's highly interested in you won't make a direct move like giving you her number. Being dominant is masculine. Don't be her feminine man.
 
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