"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Need advice on picking up girls at a rave.

thegoodstuff92

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I think I am attractive. I just don't know how to approach girls, usually most of my girlfriends approached me lol. How should I open up? There will be tons of giirls dancing, and most likely on drugs and alcohol. This girl and I just broke up, so I'm just looking to have fun at this rave. I don't really rave either. Should I just go up to them and start dancing or what lol.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Stop worrying. Go have fun

Edit: but seriously, it probably feels like **** if you just got dumped so your wanting to get with anything that moves that you think will be a kick in the face to your ex. Wrong attitude to have, new people works in the short term but you will still end up hung up on her for a while. If you were the one that did the dumping then what I just wrote is irrelevant.

Just go up to them, say hi. Conversation isn't as hard as people on this forum and modern society make it out to be. If your confident in whatever you are saying the people will respond well to you. Its not so much about what you talk about or say as how you project yourself. Actions speak louder than words. Dont be too needy with girls, they can sense it.
 

PDubb75

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justanothernormalguy - That was good advice... for most everyday encounters. I don't know if that applies at a rave.

Some of those girls might be so insanely fvcked up that your words will just be colors to them (I wish I was kidding). Raves can get insane, to the point where you could go up to a random girl, start making out without saying a word, and fvcking her 20 minutes later. Then again, I don't know if all raves are like the ones I've seen or heard about around here. Maybe they aren't all as crazy.

My advice, be the outgoing fun guy that isn't a "downer" to anyone. You may not need to "approach" per se. Be approachable. Be the guy people know can have a good time. When you are dealing with people on drugs, that is literally all you need.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Warrior74

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rave chics are easy which is why I never dated them. Do some E. Get fvcked up, hang out together, go smoke some weed later, bang em and pretend like nothing ever happened...do another chic at the next rave. I have friends in their 30s who are still pulling that one.

Sorry about your buddy man.
 
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