"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need advice on picking up girls at a rave.

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thegoodstuff92

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I think I am attractive. I just don't know how to approach girls, usually most of my girlfriends approached me lol. How should I open up? There will be tons of giirls dancing, and most likely on drugs and alcohol. This girl and I just broke up, so I'm just looking to have fun at this rave. I don't really rave either. Should I just go up to them and start dancing or what lol.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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justanothernormalguy

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Stop worrying. Go have fun

Edit: but seriously, it probably feels like **** if you just got dumped so your wanting to get with anything that moves that you think will be a kick in the face to your ex. Wrong attitude to have, new people works in the short term but you will still end up hung up on her for a while. If you were the one that did the dumping then what I just wrote is irrelevant.

Just go up to them, say hi. Conversation isn't as hard as people on this forum and modern society make it out to be. If your confident in whatever you are saying the people will respond well to you. Its not so much about what you talk about or say as how you project yourself. Actions speak louder than words. Dont be too needy with girls, they can sense it.
 
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PDubb75

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justanothernormalguy - That was good advice... for most everyday encounters. I don't know if that applies at a rave.

Some of those girls might be so insanely fvcked up that your words will just be colors to them (I wish I was kidding). Raves can get insane, to the point where you could go up to a random girl, start making out without saying a word, and fvcking her 20 minutes later. Then again, I don't know if all raves are like the ones I've seen or heard about around here. Maybe they aren't all as crazy.

My advice, be the outgoing fun guy that isn't a "downer" to anyone. You may not need to "approach" per se. Be approachable. Be the guy people know can have a good time. When you are dealing with people on drugs, that is literally all you need.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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rave chics are easy which is why I never dated them. Do some E. Get fvcked up, hang out together, go smoke some weed later, bang em and pretend like nothing ever happened...do another chic at the next rave. I have friends in their 30s who are still pulling that one.

Sorry about your buddy man.
 
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