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how hot is your gf?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
need advice..how to handle guys hitting on your girl in front of you
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Hold the drink up and yell across to the room to him "Thanks for the drink mate, I'll buy you one later".Sire said:
Then take a sip of the drink and continue on.
Just ignore it. The fact that you care what these other guys do is what makes you insecure.Sire said:
skEwb
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I've been through all the stages. The first one was to get all worked up and get in a fight with the guy and get all physical and usually I won and it felt great. After some physical injuries I went on to the second stage which was to act cool and not care, but it subconsciously bothered me that I'm physically unable to fight (and protect my lady) anymore due to serious injuries from sports. The last stage is to listen to what Sire says and avoid girls that want to go to a club to dance the night away. Most girls that are truly worth a long term relationship wont even care about small things such as going out to dance, there are plenty of other things you can do.
If you and her both want to go I feel your pain, because you're going ahead with the plan to go out there knowing very well the other guys will be there ready to hit on her. When I was physically able I had no issues with this and anybody strong usually doesn't (not saying you are not), but like I mentioned earlier if you're unable to handle it mentally just avoid that scene and explain it to your girl and if she can't deal with it then I guess tough luck for her. Try suggesting to her a dancing class if you both like dancing so much, usually couples go and it's pretty chill compared to a bar or club. And you can take her out to a nice restaurant afterward and get drinks, so there you have it dance + alcohol with minimal trouble and drama.
I'm only mentioning being physical, because I know how those AFC sh1t heads can get, they don't get verbal communication and start getting physical or persistent and the only way to deal with them is violence, works nice when you crack a half filled beer bottle on someones head, that sends the message across nicely, but really... avoid all this.. find somewhere else to go, why go through all the trouble, is it worth it?
Everyone that says act confident and play it cool obviously doesn't understand how irritating those *******s that wont listen to words get. I hear you though loud and clear. Remember that by avoiding these places you're not running or being weak, you're simply choosing not to be around *******s that label it that way. They label it this way because they want you to get worked up, they are haters and are jealous of what you have, they want your girl, and when you don't bring it to them in their little hang out scene you're labeled weak or a runner. It's not true, don't let their crappy mental games get to you!
Look at it this way, you and your girl are choosing to go to a minefield, you either walk over them or walk around. You may say, why do I have to walk around? Well you can't be idealistic, you know what goes on these places and with the information you already have you then make a decision, do battle or take it easy. Choice is yours.
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Great responses from hitop and LatinoMan, big up!
If you and her both want to go I feel your pain, because you're going ahead with the plan to go out there knowing very well the other guys will be there ready to hit on her. When I was physically able I had no issues with this and anybody strong usually doesn't (not saying you are not), but like I mentioned earlier if you're unable to handle it mentally just avoid that scene and explain it to your girl and if she can't deal with it then I guess tough luck for her. Try suggesting to her a dancing class if you both like dancing so much, usually couples go and it's pretty chill compared to a bar or club. And you can take her out to a nice restaurant afterward and get drinks, so there you have it dance + alcohol with minimal trouble and drama.
I'm only mentioning being physical, because I know how those AFC sh1t heads can get, they don't get verbal communication and start getting physical or persistent and the only way to deal with them is violence, works nice when you crack a half filled beer bottle on someones head, that sends the message across nicely, but really... avoid all this.. find somewhere else to go, why go through all the trouble, is it worth it?
Everyone that says act confident and play it cool obviously doesn't understand how irritating those *******s that wont listen to words get. I hear you though loud and clear. Remember that by avoiding these places you're not running or being weak, you're simply choosing not to be around *******s that label it that way. They label it this way because they want you to get worked up, they are haters and are jealous of what you have, they want your girl, and when you don't bring it to them in their little hang out scene you're labeled weak or a runner. It's not true, don't let their crappy mental games get to you!
Look at it this way, you and your girl are choosing to go to a minefield, you either walk over them or walk around. You may say, why do I have to walk around? Well you can't be idealistic, you know what goes on these places and with the information you already have you then make a decision, do battle or take it easy. Choice is yours.
P.S
Great responses from hitop and LatinoMan, big up!
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watch somewhere on lance mason . physical confidecne he hast some really good stuff
basic. kino your girl.
say guy hey i know its really tough for you to approach bit see she here with me and than TURN back.
or just TURN your back handing your girl with you
basic. kino your girl.
say guy hey i know its really tough for you to approach bit see she here with me and than TURN back.
or just TURN your back handing your girl with you
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
this recently happened to me,luckily it wasnt my chick..it was my cousin
zekko
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I think there's an inherent problem here. If you're out with a girl and she gets hit on ten times, while you don't get hit on at all, that makes her look like she's higher value than you, that makes her look like the prize. It makes her look like she is in high demand.
But the male is the pursuer/aggresser, so of course the girl is going to get hit on more than the guy. That's the inherent problem. To "even the score", the guy would have to hit on other girls, but to do so he has to aggressively seek out other women just to get what the female receives passively. That passivity allows the girl to remain innocent looking - she can't help it that she's so attractive that so many other men bid for her attention.
I don't really drink any more, except for very occassionally, so I have no interest in going to clubs and bars. But if you take a girl into a situation like that, she is going to get hit on, and probably a lot. Personally, I wouldn't like taking a girl into a situation where she is going to appear to have higher value. Clubs are places women go to get hit on. It's no wonder the girl likes to go there, she can just show up and be showered with attention, just for looking good.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
So it's generally a bad idea to take a girl to a bar or club? Where do you go if you just want to have drinks with her. Same thing if you want to dance.
zekko
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Nah, I'm not saying don't go. If that's what you like to do, go enjoy yourself. I've taken my girl to a few bars in recent years. She did get hit on but for whatever reason I just found it amusing. She's my LTR though, so I knew she wasn't likely to be running off with one of these guys.
I'm just complaining about the general logistics.
I'm just complaining about the general logistics.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
CrashOverRide
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I see both sides of the coin with this one.... Of course if you take your girl to a trendy bar/club she is going to be hit on. It really is up to the girl though in the end. A lot of guys actually bring their girlfriends there for their own validation. They need to feel that have something coveted, and by bring their girlfriend to a place where she gets hit on a lot it actually boosts their own self esteem.
For those of you who don't like your girl getting attention, I think the best advice is to play it cool and watch how your girl reacts to it out of the corner of your eye.
But if you bring a girl to a bar or club she is going to get hit on... and rightfully so
For those of you who don't like your girl getting attention, I think the best advice is to play it cool and watch how your girl reacts to it out of the corner of your eye.
But if you bring a girl to a bar or club she is going to get hit on... and rightfully so