"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need advice, how to continue DJ trainning when you have a girlfriend?

The Phoenix

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Yo all,

Just a quick question for some of you guys who may have had this situation.
I atarted a bootcamp not to long ago and it went really well, actually extremelly well. During this bootcamp I met a girl who is really cool, I like her a lot and she adores me, so we started dating.
Now here comes the issue.
How do I continue my DJ training, the SARGING and all while dating her. I don't want to cheat on her, lie to her or hurt her. I don't think that would be fair, and that is not who I want to be. I want to continue growing as a DJ but I want to keep my integrity too. I basically don't want to turn myself into a PUA or act unfairly like a selfish scumbag.

Just wanna be a real DJ and a good guy.
Any ideas?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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skip2mylou781

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what she doesnt kno wont hurt her....if u commit to her fully, u will end up getting hurt
 

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This is where me and skip disagree I guess, even though I like alot of his advice.

If you don't wanna cheat or lie, then just keep improving inner game work, getting new mindsets, working out physically, mentally, and emotionally, getting new ways to look at life from others perspectives, etc. And again you can game other girls without cheating on her, I mean if you get a number just toss it out for the practice.
 

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The Phoenix said:
Yo all,

Just a quick question for some of you guys who may have had this situation.
I atarted a bootcamp not to long ago and it went really well, actually extremelly well. During this bootcamp I met a girl who is really cool, I like her a lot and she adores me, so we started dating.
Now here comes the issue.
How do I continue my DJ training, the SARGING and all while dating her. I don't want to cheat on her, lie to her or hurt her. I don't think that would be fair, and that is not who I want to be. I want to continue growing as a DJ but I want to keep my integrity too. I basically don't want to turn myself into a PUA or act unfairly like a selfish scumbag.

Just wanna be a real DJ and a good guy.
Any ideas?
Then stop the bootcamp for god's sake! There is no need to go sarging. Enjoy the relationship. A good guy isn't good because he "sarge" he's good because he dare to enjoy life.
 

The Truth

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Lifeforce is right. Enjoy the relationship, you've got what you want and just graduated bootcamp earlier than expected!

You will undergo a different stage of training in a relationship. You will learn a lot of valuable lessons that PUAs never learn. Even the world famous Mystery is supposedly useless at relationships.

Another thing. When you're in a relationship, having sex regularly and being physically then maybe emotionally close to a girl, you emerge with a LOT more confidence and feel a lot more comfortable around women.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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skip2mylou781

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pooparu said:
This is where me and skip disagree I guess, even though I like alot of his advice.

If you don't wanna cheat or lie, then just keep improving inner game work, getting new mindsets, working out physically, mentally, and emotionally, getting new ways to look at life from others perspectives, etc. And again you can game other girls without cheating on her, I mean if you get a number just toss it out for the practice.

i always ended up getting hurt when i was faithful to a girl, so until im engaged, ill always b playin girls even if they think they are my "gf"
 

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DJ training never ends; There is always something you can learn about or improve upon. Getting a gf is just a different situation to learn from. Make use of it, and enjoy it!
 
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I have a gf, and I'm still continuing my trainning. I still chat up women, improve my game inside and out, and move towards financial freedom. I do think there is a line between picking up women and just enjoying meeting new women. Plus if you do get hurt you haven't lost time and have other women to pursue.
 
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