"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Need advice, how to continue DJ trainning when you have a girlfriend?

The Phoenix

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Yo all,

Just a quick question for some of you guys who may have had this situation.
I atarted a bootcamp not to long ago and it went really well, actually extremelly well. During this bootcamp I met a girl who is really cool, I like her a lot and she adores me, so we started dating.
Now here comes the issue.
How do I continue my DJ training, the SARGING and all while dating her. I don't want to cheat on her, lie to her or hurt her. I don't think that would be fair, and that is not who I want to be. I want to continue growing as a DJ but I want to keep my integrity too. I basically don't want to turn myself into a PUA or act unfairly like a selfish scumbag.

Just wanna be a real DJ and a good guy.
Any ideas?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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skip2mylou781

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what she doesnt kno wont hurt her....if u commit to her fully, u will end up getting hurt
 

pooparu

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This is where me and skip disagree I guess, even though I like alot of his advice.

If you don't wanna cheat or lie, then just keep improving inner game work, getting new mindsets, working out physically, mentally, and emotionally, getting new ways to look at life from others perspectives, etc. And again you can game other girls without cheating on her, I mean if you get a number just toss it out for the practice.
 

Lifeforce

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The Phoenix said:
Yo all,

Just a quick question for some of you guys who may have had this situation.
I atarted a bootcamp not to long ago and it went really well, actually extremelly well. During this bootcamp I met a girl who is really cool, I like her a lot and she adores me, so we started dating.
Now here comes the issue.
How do I continue my DJ training, the SARGING and all while dating her. I don't want to cheat on her, lie to her or hurt her. I don't think that would be fair, and that is not who I want to be. I want to continue growing as a DJ but I want to keep my integrity too. I basically don't want to turn myself into a PUA or act unfairly like a selfish scumbag.

Just wanna be a real DJ and a good guy.
Any ideas?
Then stop the bootcamp for god's sake! There is no need to go sarging. Enjoy the relationship. A good guy isn't good because he "sarge" he's good because he dare to enjoy life.
 

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Lifeforce is right. Enjoy the relationship, you've got what you want and just graduated bootcamp earlier than expected!

You will undergo a different stage of training in a relationship. You will learn a lot of valuable lessons that PUAs never learn. Even the world famous Mystery is supposedly useless at relationships.

Another thing. When you're in a relationship, having sex regularly and being physically then maybe emotionally close to a girl, you emerge with a LOT more confidence and feel a lot more comfortable around women.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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skip2mylou781

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pooparu said:
This is where me and skip disagree I guess, even though I like alot of his advice.

If you don't wanna cheat or lie, then just keep improving inner game work, getting new mindsets, working out physically, mentally, and emotionally, getting new ways to look at life from others perspectives, etc. And again you can game other girls without cheating on her, I mean if you get a number just toss it out for the practice.

i always ended up getting hurt when i was faithful to a girl, so until im engaged, ill always b playin girls even if they think they are my "gf"
 

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DJ training never ends; There is always something you can learn about or improve upon. Getting a gf is just a different situation to learn from. Make use of it, and enjoy it!
 
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I have a gf, and I'm still continuing my trainning. I still chat up women, improve my game inside and out, and move towards financial freedom. I do think there is a line between picking up women and just enjoying meeting new women. Plus if you do get hurt you haven't lost time and have other women to pursue.
 
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