"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Need advice, how to continue DJ trainning when you have a girlfriend?

The Phoenix

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Yo all,

Just a quick question for some of you guys who may have had this situation.
I atarted a bootcamp not to long ago and it went really well, actually extremelly well. During this bootcamp I met a girl who is really cool, I like her a lot and she adores me, so we started dating.
Now here comes the issue.
How do I continue my DJ training, the SARGING and all while dating her. I don't want to cheat on her, lie to her or hurt her. I don't think that would be fair, and that is not who I want to be. I want to continue growing as a DJ but I want to keep my integrity too. I basically don't want to turn myself into a PUA or act unfairly like a selfish scumbag.

Just wanna be a real DJ and a good guy.
Any ideas?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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skip2mylou781

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what she doesnt kno wont hurt her....if u commit to her fully, u will end up getting hurt
 

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This is where me and skip disagree I guess, even though I like alot of his advice.

If you don't wanna cheat or lie, then just keep improving inner game work, getting new mindsets, working out physically, mentally, and emotionally, getting new ways to look at life from others perspectives, etc. And again you can game other girls without cheating on her, I mean if you get a number just toss it out for the practice.
 

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The Phoenix said:
Yo all,

Just a quick question for some of you guys who may have had this situation.
I atarted a bootcamp not to long ago and it went really well, actually extremelly well. During this bootcamp I met a girl who is really cool, I like her a lot and she adores me, so we started dating.
Now here comes the issue.
How do I continue my DJ training, the SARGING and all while dating her. I don't want to cheat on her, lie to her or hurt her. I don't think that would be fair, and that is not who I want to be. I want to continue growing as a DJ but I want to keep my integrity too. I basically don't want to turn myself into a PUA or act unfairly like a selfish scumbag.

Just wanna be a real DJ and a good guy.
Any ideas?
Then stop the bootcamp for god's sake! There is no need to go sarging. Enjoy the relationship. A good guy isn't good because he "sarge" he's good because he dare to enjoy life.
 

The Truth

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Lifeforce is right. Enjoy the relationship, you've got what you want and just graduated bootcamp earlier than expected!

You will undergo a different stage of training in a relationship. You will learn a lot of valuable lessons that PUAs never learn. Even the world famous Mystery is supposedly useless at relationships.

Another thing. When you're in a relationship, having sex regularly and being physically then maybe emotionally close to a girl, you emerge with a LOT more confidence and feel a lot more comfortable around women.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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skip2mylou781

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pooparu said:
This is where me and skip disagree I guess, even though I like alot of his advice.

If you don't wanna cheat or lie, then just keep improving inner game work, getting new mindsets, working out physically, mentally, and emotionally, getting new ways to look at life from others perspectives, etc. And again you can game other girls without cheating on her, I mean if you get a number just toss it out for the practice.

i always ended up getting hurt when i was faithful to a girl, so until im engaged, ill always b playin girls even if they think they are my "gf"
 

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DJ training never ends; There is always something you can learn about or improve upon. Getting a gf is just a different situation to learn from. Make use of it, and enjoy it!
 
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I have a gf, and I'm still continuing my trainning. I still chat up women, improve my game inside and out, and move towards financial freedom. I do think there is a line between picking up women and just enjoying meeting new women. Plus if you do get hurt you haven't lost time and have other women to pursue.
 
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