Need advice again about ex

[brokenupinside]

Ok,you may remember my previous posts about my dr. diagnosed BPD ex,anyway if you don't ,that's the setup.

I got dumped...so far so good.
She engaged in the usual BPD smear campaign,projection,gaslighting...you name it.
I navigated the BPD relationship successfully for 15 years(can you say Perfect Storm?) but when she was diagnosed with another unrelated condition
she had a breakdown and something had to give and it was me,she left,got married to some fat drunk dude.
She has kept contact,I have been NC but it irks me that I never got closure or got to have my say.I mean the projections are unbearable,when you know they are blaming you but it's THEM they are talking about.

The relationship she's in now is obviously a rebound of sorts,spends 15yrs with me and breaks up and in a yr she marries this fugly guy.I guess the need to evade her new reality was too much.

I know I'm going through an AFC period but I guess I wanna see her fail,I want to have that "I told you so" moment.

Should I just let it go or should I make a carefull letter saying all I have to say and then just vanish?

Thanks

 

[kingy]

work on your own life, let her go, wish her well, genuinely wish her to be happy. negative energy is transparent and will only impaire you meeting someone new or being productive.

 

[brokenupinside]

Yes,it's so hard tho,known her for 20yrs,together for 15 and she took my kid and she's feeding her crap so she hates me,tough,everybody tells me not to tangle with her in court,your baby(she's 12) will see through the crap and seek you out once she's a little older.

By the way ...thanks Kingy.

 

[kingy]

no worries mate, i can imagine its a tough situation, children aren't silly and will respect you for not causing drama, also deep down sure your ex wants best for her too, try to move on - life is short x

 

[brokenupinside]

Sure thing bro,thanks