"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Need advice again about ex

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Ok,you may remember my previous posts about my dr. diagnosed BPD ex,anyway if you don't ,that's the setup.

I got dumped...so far so good.
She engaged in the usual BPD smear campaign,projection,gaslighting...you name it.
I navigated the BPD relationship successfully for 15 years(can you say Perfect Storm?) but when she was diagnosed with another unrelated condition
she had a breakdown and something had to give and it was me,she left,got married to some fat drunk dude.
She has kept contact,I have been NC but it irks me that I never got closure or got to have my say.I mean the projections are unbearable,when you know they are blaming you but it's THEM they are talking about.

The relationship she's in now is obviously a rebound of sorts,spends 15yrs with me and breaks up and in a yr she marries this fugly guy.I guess the need to evade her new reality was too much.

I know I'm going through an AFC period but I guess I wanna see her fail,I want to have that "I told you so" moment.

Should I just let it go or should I make a carefull letter saying all I have to say and then just vanish?

Thanks
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Yes,it's so hard tho,known her for 20yrs,together for 15 and she took my kid and she's feeding her crap so she hates me,tough,everybody tells me not to tangle with her in court,your baby(she's 12) will see through the crap and seek you out once she's a little older.

By the way ...thanks Kingy.
 
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no worries mate, i can imagine its a tough situation, children aren't silly and will respect you for not causing drama, also deep down sure your ex wants best for her too, try to move on - life is short x
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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