need advice: 30 year old HB9 wants marriage and children

[taiyuu_otoko]

If she sees you together now, then she'll see you together in three or four years from now. If you wait at least two years, you'll have lost NOTHING.

Don't tell her, but let it play out next year OR TWO. If she starts to push you, then that means she's not willing to wait. See how she handles having to WAIT TWO YEARS for any kind of a commitment from you.

If she CAN'T WAIT, she's not worth it. She'll end up causing more problems down the line. If she pushes now she's like a salesperson who needs to CLOSE NOW because the customer is never coming back.

ALSO, if she HAS TO WAIT, and she really wants YOU, she'll be spending those two years telling herself how much she wants you, which will lower the probability of future problems. (e.g. she won't give up on something she's invested so much mental and emotional effort in).

THIS IS HOW MEN TEST WOMEN.

Make them wait a year or two (or longer) for any kind of legal commitment. IF THEY BAIL THEY FAIL.

No matter what she says, no matter how you feel WAIT AT LEAST TWO YEARS for a paper commitment. Put half your wealth in escrow and have the escrow company give it to the Justin Bieber charity if you get married within two years.

 

[visions]

DJs, thanks for providing advice.

 

[Rainman4707]

I don't have any kids.

I have experienced over the last eighteen months, that the first ten years of a upbringing is crucial. It sets the platform for the rest of that persons life.

 

[vorbis]

Everyone is so quick to go negative.

She's not looking to get married tomorrow. She wants reassurance that you're interested in a long term relationship. You've been communicating in some form for over a year. It's a legitimate question. Only you can decide if you want a serious relationship with this girl.

 

[BeExcellent]

I've got 3 kids. Married 16 years. As I said above I think it's a unique situation. The OP will have to decide if it's right for him.

 

[pyros]

I think you two barely know each other.

Since she is 'conservative' and 'traditional' she sees you as a good catch and that's why she thinks about marriage, JUST BECAUSE OF THIS. In other words, a very selfish wish.

It doesnt matter where she's from, you must get to know her for at least a couple of years, and also live together for a couple of years BEFORE CONSIDERING HER MARRIAGE MATERIAL. It doesnt have anything to do with where she's from.
She could be from Poland and be a crazyselfish slvt, or r she could be from Australia and be a nice loving mentally stable woman.

Oh, I forgot, SHE'S DEFINETELY NOT A HB9, for God's sake. Lmao...
HB7.5 at best.

 

[vorbis]

To reiterate my point
"In November 2014 I met an HB9 at a mall in D.C (cold approaching). At the time she was 28 years old (she turned 30 last October)"

They may not have psychically in the same place for long but they have had some sort of contact going for 2 years.
Thats's definitely enough contact for her to ask him if he actually wants a serious relationship.
There's nothing selfish about that.

I'm not even sure what some of the people here are suggesting.
If she was willing to hook up with someone who doesn't want something serious, people here would not view her as a "proper girl" and that she's "not worthy of dating"

 

[Alvafe]

some sort of contact for 2 years is not the same a being together for 2 years, people who date for 2 years, only seeing each other during weekends or some time in a month don't know each other well enough, in both cases you will see each other only when both are well behaved, and in they best form, you need a little more contact to know each other well, sending msg and skyping is not the same.

if the open want to date her is ok, but I tell you this, don't marry her too soon, date and be together for at least 3 years, if she don't agree and want to marry fast something is wrong, also consider this she is female, if she is such a catch, pray tell, why she is still single?