"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Plec07

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Alrite well I need some advice on whether or not I should ask out this girl. She shows some interest in me in that I can't have a conversation last with her last more than a minute without her laughing at something I say even if I don't mean for it to be funny. I also tried to get a better picture by leaving a jumper in a class we had together before lunch and as we got to our lockers told her I'd left it somewhere and asked if she would come with me, and sure enough she followed me on a wild goose chase for about 15 mins before I went back to get it and teased her saying it was her fault I forgot it in the first place. She reacts well to light kino (such as giving her a little play hit on her shoulder or puttin my legs next to hers while in lessons, 1ce to the extent of grabbing her leg with mine as we were playing with a football under the table). But I've noticed she never seems to give me a hug as she's going which is what most girls in my school/year do and often leaves rather abruptly with a quick bye and a wave. She also never initiates talking over msn although she's fine to come over and talk to me in person at random and she's fine to hug me when she first comes over it's just when leaving she doesn't.

Basically I don't know if she really is interested in me or just messing about and I don't want to ask her out (bf/gf status not on a date) if I'm not almost entirely sure she'll say yes because we're in quite a lot of classes sitting next to each other and unable to move because of seating plans and I simply don't go well with awkwardness. :(

I don't have a problem with the confidence, well I don't think I do anyway it's simply having to get by sitting next to her every day with any level of awkwardness around that puts me off it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Charm

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Asking her out is the only way to find out. Also, remember to study some posts on HOW to properly ask her out without sounding needy or desperate. Make it seem like you are going to do somethng and you are inviting her to come along.
 

Zerotwoonenine

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OK YOU WILL GIVE ME A REP ON THIS
SHE DEFINITELY LIKES YOU AND IS JUST PLAYING HARD TO GET
this is what my GF still does and we have been going out for one month and half, she still plays games with me and we both know it.
SO GO AND GET THAT DATE AND KNOW THAT SHE WONT SAY NO
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Lompa

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I have learnt something great try some thing along these lines:
I am going to the xxx why won't you accompany me?
 

Zerotwoonenine

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no dont do that that is still asking, you have to show that you will go and enjoy your self wherther she comes along or not.
 
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