"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Plec07

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Alrite well I need some advice on whether or not I should ask out this girl. She shows some interest in me in that I can't have a conversation last with her last more than a minute without her laughing at something I say even if I don't mean for it to be funny. I also tried to get a better picture by leaving a jumper in a class we had together before lunch and as we got to our lockers told her I'd left it somewhere and asked if she would come with me, and sure enough she followed me on a wild goose chase for about 15 mins before I went back to get it and teased her saying it was her fault I forgot it in the first place. She reacts well to light kino (such as giving her a little play hit on her shoulder or puttin my legs next to hers while in lessons, 1ce to the extent of grabbing her leg with mine as we were playing with a football under the table). But I've noticed she never seems to give me a hug as she's going which is what most girls in my school/year do and often leaves rather abruptly with a quick bye and a wave. She also never initiates talking over msn although she's fine to come over and talk to me in person at random and she's fine to hug me when she first comes over it's just when leaving she doesn't.

Basically I don't know if she really is interested in me or just messing about and I don't want to ask her out (bf/gf status not on a date) if I'm not almost entirely sure she'll say yes because we're in quite a lot of classes sitting next to each other and unable to move because of seating plans and I simply don't go well with awkwardness. :(

I don't have a problem with the confidence, well I don't think I do anyway it's simply having to get by sitting next to her every day with any level of awkwardness around that puts me off it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Charm

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Asking her out is the only way to find out. Also, remember to study some posts on HOW to properly ask her out without sounding needy or desperate. Make it seem like you are going to do somethng and you are inviting her to come along.
 

Zerotwoonenine

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OK YOU WILL GIVE ME A REP ON THIS
SHE DEFINITELY LIKES YOU AND IS JUST PLAYING HARD TO GET
this is what my GF still does and we have been going out for one month and half, she still plays games with me and we both know it.
SO GO AND GET THAT DATE AND KNOW THAT SHE WONT SAY NO
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Lompa

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I have learnt something great try some thing along these lines:
I am going to the xxx why won't you accompany me?
 

Zerotwoonenine

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no dont do that that is still asking, you have to show that you will go and enjoy your self wherther she comes along or not.
 
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