"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This woman I have been seeing for 5 months or so and we went on a little break so that she could take care of some personal issues. I said fine take whatever time you need. Bear in mind I still like this girl and wouldn't mind getting more serious with her. Bad thing is I think she knows that.

She just emailed me after about 10 days not talking saying "do you think maybe sometime in the next week or so you'd like to meet for dinner?"

Any quick, ****y and funny responses you guys can come up with that lets her know I haven't been just been sitting waiting for her to call or email me, but at the same time lets her know that I am interested in meeting her?

Thanks guys
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"Why not? It could be fun. Where are you taking me?"
 

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"do you think maybe sometime in the next week or so you'd like to meet for dinner?"

You don't need to be ****y and or funny to have an effect on a woman.
My response would be 'sure, give me a call and we will set something up'. This forces 'her' to initiate...see what I'm saying? Let her chase after you some; let her know that she needs to work for your attention.

Now, all that being said, you may want to look at the reason why ‘she’ wanted a break. I promise you that she didn't need to take care of personal business, she just wanted a break from you but didn't want to come across like a b*tch.
 

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No it was. We have been dealing with this issue almost the entire relationship, and it finally came to a head. Totally unrelated to me. But thanks and keep them coming :).
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How about this?

Why not? Could be fun. Where are you taking me? Mickey D's or Wendy's are unacceptable. :)

No seriously. Sure, give me a call and we will set something up.
 

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Um well i'd rather not get into it but the issue had something to do with her and is something she has had almost her entire life. She seems to be taking steps to clear it up.

Granted, it could in the long run be a deal breaker but for now I'd like to see where things lead.
 

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cordoncordon said:
How about this?

Why not? Could be fun. Where are you taking me? Mickey D's or Wendy's are unacceptable. :)

No seriously. Sure, give me a call and we will set something up.
Oh you'd bite after telling her that she's taking you out? Why wuss out?
 

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cordoncordon said:
How about this?

Why not? Could be fun. Where are you taking me? Mickey D's or Wendy's are unacceptable. :)

No seriously. Sure, give me a call and we will set something up.
Personally, I would leave the C&F bit for another time. C&F is good when you are being playful, but it can back fire in this type of situation. There is a time and place for ****y and funny, right now isn't one of those times. You need to play it cool bro.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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cordoncordon said:
This woman I have been seeing for 5 months or so and we went on a little break so that she could take care of some personal issues.
ooooooooops!!! This is hor talk for "I'm being fvcked by other dudes right now and I don't want you in the way!!!"

WAKE UP kid, The Hor Matrix has you!!!
 
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