"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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This woman I have been seeing for 5 months or so and we went on a little break so that she could take care of some personal issues. I said fine take whatever time you need. Bear in mind I still like this girl and wouldn't mind getting more serious with her. Bad thing is I think she knows that.

She just emailed me after about 10 days not talking saying "do you think maybe sometime in the next week or so you'd like to meet for dinner?"

Any quick, ****y and funny responses you guys can come up with that lets her know I haven't been just been sitting waiting for her to call or email me, but at the same time lets her know that I am interested in meeting her?

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"Why not? It could be fun. Where are you taking me?"
 

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"do you think maybe sometime in the next week or so you'd like to meet for dinner?"

You don't need to be ****y and or funny to have an effect on a woman.
My response would be 'sure, give me a call and we will set something up'. This forces 'her' to initiate...see what I'm saying? Let her chase after you some; let her know that she needs to work for your attention.

Now, all that being said, you may want to look at the reason why ‘she’ wanted a break. I promise you that she didn't need to take care of personal business, she just wanted a break from you but didn't want to come across like a b*tch.
 

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No it was. We have been dealing with this issue almost the entire relationship, and it finally came to a head. Totally unrelated to me. But thanks and keep them coming :).
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How about this?

Why not? Could be fun. Where are you taking me? Mickey D's or Wendy's are unacceptable. :)

No seriously. Sure, give me a call and we will set something up.
 

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Um well i'd rather not get into it but the issue had something to do with her and is something she has had almost her entire life. She seems to be taking steps to clear it up.

Granted, it could in the long run be a deal breaker but for now I'd like to see where things lead.
 

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cordoncordon said:
How about this?

Why not? Could be fun. Where are you taking me? Mickey D's or Wendy's are unacceptable. :)

No seriously. Sure, give me a call and we will set something up.
Oh you'd bite after telling her that she's taking you out? Why wuss out?
 

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cordoncordon said:
How about this?

Why not? Could be fun. Where are you taking me? Mickey D's or Wendy's are unacceptable. :)

No seriously. Sure, give me a call and we will set something up.
Personally, I would leave the C&F bit for another time. C&F is good when you are being playful, but it can back fire in this type of situation. There is a time and place for ****y and funny, right now isn't one of those times. You need to play it cool bro.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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cordoncordon said:
This woman I have been seeing for 5 months or so and we went on a little break so that she could take care of some personal issues.
ooooooooops!!! This is hor talk for "I'm being fvcked by other dudes right now and I don't want you in the way!!!"

WAKE UP kid, The Hor Matrix has you!!!
 
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