MaudGrimes
Don Juan
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Hey,
After returning to this site (I read some posts over a month or two last year) I've decided to put down my own post and see what kind of advice you guys can give. First I should give a bit of background about myself.
I'm going to be turning 30 this year and though I have had one or two short term relationships I have yet to have what I would call a LTR. This is not all due to a complete lack of success with women - without wanting to sound arrogant I consider myself to be a pretty good looking guy, I work out and I dress pretty well. I have actually lost the exact count of the amount of women I have slept with (I think somewhere between 80 and 90), so again I have had success with women in the past.
I should counter this by explaining where my failings so far have been. I still consider myself to be an AFC; my lack of a meaningful LTR so far has been my refusal to enter a relationship with a woman I know is not at the standard I think I deserve. I don't think this standard is beyond what I should be able to achieve, though I'm getting to the stage (and the age!) where I'm concerned I am going to end up having to settle for somebody. I suffer from shyness in some social situations and find it hard to talk to people in loud, busy environments (for example clubs/bars) - many of the women I have slept with have been after a drunken night out when the shyness is reduced. I also have a knack of saying things without thinking which can turn women off if I say the wrong thing.
In short I wanted to check what advice you can give. I need to raise my game, and quickly. It would be good to hear from any of you who can relate to this story and what you did to up your game. At the moment I have very little in the way of dates, I've tried (and quickly rejected) on-line dating and to be honest I need some direction in the steps I should take in achieving my goal. There seems to be so much advice available that sometimes it seems hard to pick out a few good pointers to start with!
Maud Grimes
After returning to this site (I read some posts over a month or two last year) I've decided to put down my own post and see what kind of advice you guys can give. First I should give a bit of background about myself.
I'm going to be turning 30 this year and though I have had one or two short term relationships I have yet to have what I would call a LTR. This is not all due to a complete lack of success with women - without wanting to sound arrogant I consider myself to be a pretty good looking guy, I work out and I dress pretty well. I have actually lost the exact count of the amount of women I have slept with (I think somewhere between 80 and 90), so again I have had success with women in the past.
I should counter this by explaining where my failings so far have been. I still consider myself to be an AFC; my lack of a meaningful LTR so far has been my refusal to enter a relationship with a woman I know is not at the standard I think I deserve. I don't think this standard is beyond what I should be able to achieve, though I'm getting to the stage (and the age!) where I'm concerned I am going to end up having to settle for somebody. I suffer from shyness in some social situations and find it hard to talk to people in loud, busy environments (for example clubs/bars) - many of the women I have slept with have been after a drunken night out when the shyness is reduced. I also have a knack of saying things without thinking which can turn women off if I say the wrong thing.
In short I wanted to check what advice you can give. I need to raise my game, and quickly. It would be good to hear from any of you who can relate to this story and what you did to up your game. At the moment I have very little in the way of dates, I've tried (and quickly rejected) on-line dating and to be honest I need some direction in the steps I should take in achieving my goal. There seems to be so much advice available that sometimes it seems hard to pick out a few good pointers to start with!
Maud Grimes
