"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Narcissists

Bvbidd

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How many posters on here are narcissists.. I mean really.. I think a lot of them are. This site kind of affirms any narcissism we may have within us.

I was skimming through the bible once, and then read a page on what narcissism is.. and it was like the same thing.

Narcissists look at the needs of themselves before others and learn to "next" people out of their lives because of a bad early life.

When they hit (late teens/early 20s (most of us are that age)) they affirm themselves with basically the beleifs of this site.

lol I thought that was kinda weird.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Sean O

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I always thought of narcissim as being like a rude version of what we believe in here on SoSuave. Like, a narcissist will go as far as to ignore the needs of others, whereas we'll still be courteous (most of us, at least), but still place more importance on our needs, i.e. we live for ourselves, and not for others. That's just my interpretation, though.
 

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Narcissim

Don't let anyone make you think that following your own path and not having others control you is narcissim. When you 'next' a girl, you do it not out of narcissim but because she is not up to your standards.

This is narcissim.
 

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You just have to have the mindset of "I'm the best there is. I live for myself." because of a traumatic early life, it's used as a defence mech.

We get treated badly by girls, go on here read this.. anytime we actually do read this.. it supports or def mech.. and even if we forget about this site.. it helps those beleives along and by the time we hit our mid 20s were full fledges narcisists.. that's just what I see. Because apparently living for ourselves and not others is a mentally unhealthy trait.

And lol yeah Paris is a narcisist.. it's caused by a bad early life or an early life with high expectations and no authority.

But what I really wonder is.. is this really low self-esteem or is that just jealous pychoanalysts?
 

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Narcissism is recognized by a pattern of grandiosity, exaggerated self-worth, and need for admiration from others.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bvbidd

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Exactly.. but by learning how to get better with girls.. isn't that a result of needing that admiration?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Bvbidd said:
Exactly.. but by learning how to get better with girls.. isn't that a result of needing that admiration?
Yes, if a guy sarges women just to stroke his own ego. It's all about a person's purpose. We all may seek similar outcomes but our goals may be completely different.
 

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I used to get horny by just looking at myself. I don't anymore, but I miss that feeling of feeling so fvcking good. Funny thing, is that when this happens, as well being highs, there are lows... and I didn't have any lows. Well, just normal lows like once a month that last 2 hours, and just give you motivation to go on.
 
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