You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
O.P is looking for the green light to commit rape.Philippe Schlichting said:There is this saying in the community that pickup gave you power.
Name one technique that gives me power over women.
What I mean is: Which technique, ie, what you do or say right now, gives you power over women. The question stems from realizing that women by their sheer existance get attention and sex. I am asking for a technique that offers the same power with the same effort being put in.
I am not asking this for the record, I don't want you to list every useless fact that comes to mind, but to mention something to use against women next time who display their female power against you. For instance it is very easy to be seen as lower value by women. It seems as if they were waiting for something they could see as lower value in you.
Naughty Ninja said:O.P is looking for the green light to commit rape.
LOL:crackup:VladPatton said:He should throw in suicide while he's at it.
We could leave women before and we can do it now. Neither is it a powerful technique nor related to pickup.FinalWay said:The only power we have is to better ourselves , and that includes dropping useless women...what do you wanna do? Win her over? I say fvck that, and screw her best friend lol.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That doesn't give you power towards women, these are your standards and the best you can expect from a woman is to tell you that she doesn't care about them.pipe007 said:easy!
I love myself! I respect myself! I deserve to have quality women! and quality relationships!
I dont tolerate disrespect!, and I don't settle for anything less than first class behavior toward me.
This backfires directly to you as it shows that my question forced you to reevaluate your understanding of pickup as a power tool and that made you realize some uncomfortable truths, which you want to conceal by writing what you wrote.Naughty Ninja said:O.P is looking for the green light to commit rape.
Suicide gives you no power over women. But try it, nobody will miss you.VladPatton said:He should throw in suicide while he's at it.
that made me lol for a bit.Philippe Schlichting said:Suicide gives you no power over women. But try it, nobody will miss you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Philippe Schlichting said:This backfires directly to you as it shows that my question forced you to reevaluate your understanding of pickup as a power tool and that made you realize some uncomfortable truths, which you want to conceal by writing what you wrote.
You're the only "power tool" around here.Philippe Schlichting said:This backfires directly to you as it shows that my question forced you to reevaluate your understanding of pickup as a power tool and that made you realize some uncomfortable truths, which you want to conceal by writing what you wrote.
Bingo. Everyone talks about indifference being the magic bullet when I think its having an air of indifference. A few of my friends claim to be indifferent in their situation, but I see them trying to maintain some communication before they get the women they are after. say one thing, do another. Its the same with folks here who claim indifference is going to be the final solution.PlayHer Man said:This is a half-truth. "Indifference" does not give you power over a woman. It just keeps her from having power over you.
I agree with you. You can be indifferent all day long, but if you're not high value or if she doesn't have some interest in you, she isn't going to care, or probably even notice (unless she's an extreme AW).Mike32ct said:I think indifference is good but overrated as a technique for most guys. With all her options today, indifference only works for very high value men.
I'm not saying one should ever be needy. But expecting that an average guy would get laid from indifference? I doubt it.
PlayHerMan is also correct. It's more for you than her.
I'd love to hear Zekko's thoughts on this one.
As for the OP's question, I'm a little confused about what kind of situation he is describing when he talks about "displaying her female power against you". Could be taken a few different ways."Indifference" does not give you power over a woman. It just keeps her from having power over you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.