You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
O.P is looking for the green light to commit rape.Philippe Schlichting said:There is this saying in the community that pickup gave you power.
Name one technique that gives me power over women.
What I mean is: Which technique, ie, what you do or say right now, gives you power over women. The question stems from realizing that women by their sheer existance get attention and sex. I am asking for a technique that offers the same power with the same effort being put in.
I am not asking this for the record, I don't want you to list every useless fact that comes to mind, but to mention something to use against women next time who display their female power against you. For instance it is very easy to be seen as lower value by women. It seems as if they were waiting for something they could see as lower value in you.
Naughty Ninja said:O.P is looking for the green light to commit rape.
LOL:crackup:VladPatton said:He should throw in suicide while he's at it.
We could leave women before and we can do it now. Neither is it a powerful technique nor related to pickup.FinalWay said:The only power we have is to better ourselves , and that includes dropping useless women...what do you wanna do? Win her over? I say fvck that, and screw her best friend lol.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That doesn't give you power towards women, these are your standards and the best you can expect from a woman is to tell you that she doesn't care about them.pipe007 said:easy!
I love myself! I respect myself! I deserve to have quality women! and quality relationships!
I dont tolerate disrespect!, and I don't settle for anything less than first class behavior toward me.
This backfires directly to you as it shows that my question forced you to reevaluate your understanding of pickup as a power tool and that made you realize some uncomfortable truths, which you want to conceal by writing what you wrote.Naughty Ninja said:O.P is looking for the green light to commit rape.
Suicide gives you no power over women. But try it, nobody will miss you.VladPatton said:He should throw in suicide while he's at it.
that made me lol for a bit.Philippe Schlichting said:Suicide gives you no power over women. But try it, nobody will miss you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Philippe Schlichting said:This backfires directly to you as it shows that my question forced you to reevaluate your understanding of pickup as a power tool and that made you realize some uncomfortable truths, which you want to conceal by writing what you wrote.
You're the only "power tool" around here.Philippe Schlichting said:This backfires directly to you as it shows that my question forced you to reevaluate your understanding of pickup as a power tool and that made you realize some uncomfortable truths, which you want to conceal by writing what you wrote.
Bingo. Everyone talks about indifference being the magic bullet when I think its having an air of indifference. A few of my friends claim to be indifferent in their situation, but I see them trying to maintain some communication before they get the women they are after. say one thing, do another. Its the same with folks here who claim indifference is going to be the final solution.PlayHer Man said:This is a half-truth. "Indifference" does not give you power over a woman. It just keeps her from having power over you.
I agree with you. You can be indifferent all day long, but if you're not high value or if she doesn't have some interest in you, she isn't going to care, or probably even notice (unless she's an extreme AW).Mike32ct said:I think indifference is good but overrated as a technique for most guys. With all her options today, indifference only works for very high value men.
I'm not saying one should ever be needy. But expecting that an average guy would get laid from indifference? I doubt it.
PlayHerMan is also correct. It's more for you than her.
I'd love to hear Zekko's thoughts on this one.
As for the OP's question, I'm a little confused about what kind of situation he is describing when he talks about "displaying her female power against you". Could be taken a few different ways."Indifference" does not give you power over a woman. It just keeps her from having power over you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.