"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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OK so heres the deal. Last year i went to a private school and i was an afc. There was this amazing girl in my spanish class that sat really far away from me, but I was an afc so i didnt have the balls to talk to her. A year has passed, I go to a different school, Im pretty confident and im not afraid of talking to anyone, but my school has like no hot chicks. I regret not getting to this website last year. But anyway, a good friend of mine knows her and has her as a friend on myspace. Now the only way of talking to her again is through myspace, witch sux, cuz i dont want to seem as a creepy dude, and i think its lame to start talking to someone uve never met through the internet:nono: . Well anyway, what shoud i tell her over myspace to get her interested? I was thinking of something like "Hey I saw u on nates profile, and i recognized u from my spanish class last year. How u been?" But then shed be like WTF? he only talks to me through myspace, wat a loser. Help?!?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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soadflav said:
OK so heres the deal. Last year i went to a private school and i was an afc. There was this amazing girl in my spanish class that sat really far away from me, but I was an afc so i didnt have the balls to talk to her. A year has passed, I go to a different school, Im pretty confident and im not afraid of talking to anyone, but my school has like no hot chicks. I regret not getting to this website last year. But anyway, a good friend of mine knows her and has her as a friend on myspace. Now the only way of talking to her again is through myspace, witch sux, cuz i dont want to seem as a creepy dude, and i think its lame to start talking to someone uve never met through the internet:nono: . Well anyway, what shoud i tell her over myspace to get her interested? I was thinking of something like "Hey I saw u on nates profile, and i recognized u from my spanish class last year. How u been?" But then shed be like WTF? he only talks to me through myspace, wat a loser. Help?!?
im talking to you right now over the internet. does that make me a creep?
stop worrying about what she will think. just send her a message like "hey. i came across your profile on nate's page and you looked familair. i think i may have had spanish class with u? do you remember me?" and go from there. if she likes you she will respond. if she doesnt respond then who cares. life goes on...
 

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Thanks, I might use that, but if i never talked to her how would she remember me?
 

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Thanks, I might use that, but if i never talked to her how would she remember me?
she would see the pic on your profile and maybe remember youe face. who cares if she remembers you or not. you are just using this spanish class reference to start a conversation. once she responds back then put your bid in and try to see if you have any things in common. if you feel that she seems like fun and want to hang with her then make a suggestion that the two of you hangout one day and then exchange phone numbers to setup a date...
 

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J Roc said:
she would see the pic on your profile and maybe remember youe face. who cares if she remembers you or not. you are just using this spanish class reference to start a conversation. once she responds back then put your bid in and try to see if you have any things in common. if you feel that she seems like fun and want to hang with her then make a suggestion that the two of you hangout one day and then exchange phone numbers to setup a date...
:rockon: The spanish class is just an excuse to say hi. Worst thing she can do is not respond.....boo hoo. But, don't act like you are being friendly just to be her friend, or it'll stay that way. And, if I were you, I'd say hi and keep your conversation in Spanish.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thanks guys, just sent her the message. Ill keep ya posted:yes:
 

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What happened? You out with her now, or still waiting for a reply?
 
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J Roc said:
just send her a message like "hey. i came across your profile on nate's page and you looked familair. i think i may have had spanish class with u? do you remember me?" and go from there. if she likes you she will respond. if she doesnt respond then who cares. life goes on...
That's the right idea. I know you already sent it, but it would have been a little better if you said "I think I remember you..." rather than "Do you remember me?" It sounds less needy and more like she's in YOUR world rather that your in her world.

In any event, let us know what happens. And in the future, do not be afraid of approaching a female and saying hello...especially if she shows signs of interest.
 

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Hey guys sorry for not replying, anyway i sent her that message inside the friend request, which was a bad idea, i mean she added me as a friend but she didnt respond, and worse yet is that in her myspace it says that shes going out with this guy and is currently "in a relationship" so watever, i guess it was my fault for not talking to her last year. Dont matter though ill find someone better.... eventually
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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