OK so heres the deal. Last year i went to a private school and i was an afc. There was this amazing girl in my spanish class that sat really far away from me, but I was an afc so i didnt have the balls to talk to her. A year has passed, I go to a different school, Im pretty confident and im not afraid of talking to anyone, but my school has like no hot chicks. I regret not getting to this website last year. But anyway, a good friend of mine knows her and has her as a friend on myspace. Now the only way of talking to her again is through myspace, witch sux, cuz i dont want to seem as a creepy dude, and i think its lame to start talking to someone uve never met through the internet:nono: . Well anyway, what shoud i tell her over myspace to get her interested? I was thinking of something like "Hey I saw u on nates profile, and i recognized u from my spanish class last year. How u been?" But then shed be like WTF? he only talks to me through myspace, wat a loser. Help?!?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Myspace Girl
- Thread starter soadflav
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
im talking to you right now over the internet. does that make me a creep?soadflav said:OK so heres the deal. Last year i went to a private school and i was an afc. There was this amazing girl in my spanish class that sat really far away from me, but I was an afc so i didnt have the balls to talk to her. A year has passed, I go to a different school, Im pretty confident and im not afraid of talking to anyone, but my school has like no hot chicks. I regret not getting to this website last year. But anyway, a good friend of mine knows her and has her as a friend on myspace. Now the only way of talking to her again is through myspace, witch sux, cuz i dont want to seem as a creepy dude, and i think its lame to start talking to someone uve never met through the internet:nono: . Well anyway, what shoud i tell her over myspace to get her interested? I was thinking of something like "Hey I saw u on nates profile, and i recognized u from my spanish class last year. How u been?" But then shed be like WTF? he only talks to me through myspace, wat a loser. Help?!?
stop worrying about what she will think. just send her a message like "hey. i came across your profile on nate's page and you looked familair. i think i may have had spanish class with u? do you remember me?" and go from there. if she likes you she will respond. if she doesnt respond then who cares. life goes on...
she would see the pic on your profile and maybe remember youe face. who cares if she remembers you or not. you are just using this spanish class reference to start a conversation. once she responds back then put your bid in and try to see if you have any things in common. if you feel that she seems like fun and want to hang with her then make a suggestion that the two of you hangout one day and then exchange phone numbers to setup a date...soadflav said:Thanks, I might use that, but if i never talked to her how would she remember me?
:rockon: The spanish class is just an excuse to say hi. Worst thing she can do is not respond.....boo hoo. But, don't act like you are being friendly just to be her friend, or it'll stay that way. And, if I were you, I'd say hi and keep your conversation in Spanish.J Roc said:she would see the pic on your profile and maybe remember youe face. who cares if she remembers you or not. you are just using this spanish class reference to start a conversation. once she responds back then put your bid in and try to see if you have any things in common. if you feel that she seems like fun and want to hang with her then make a suggestion that the two of you hangout one day and then exchange phone numbers to setup a date...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your_Royal_Flyness
Don Juan
That's the right idea. I know you already sent it, but it would have been a little better if you said "I think I remember you..." rather than "Do you remember me?" It sounds less needy and more like she's in YOUR world rather that your in her world.J Roc said:just send her a message like "hey. i came across your profile on nate's page and you looked familair. i think i may have had spanish class with u? do you remember me?" and go from there. if she likes you she will respond. if she doesnt respond then who cares. life goes on...
In any event, let us know what happens. And in the future, do not be afraid of approaching a female and saying hello...especially if she shows signs of interest.
Hey guys sorry for not replying, anyway i sent her that message inside the friend request, which was a bad idea, i mean she added me as a friend but she didnt respond, and worse yet is that in her myspace it says that shes going out with this guy and is currently "in a relationship" so watever, i guess it was my fault for not talking to her last year. Dont matter though ill find someone better.... eventually
phatboi408
Senior Don Juan
whats her link?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why u wana know?phatboi408 said:whats her link?