Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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OK so heres the deal. Last year i went to a private school and i was an afc. There was this amazing girl in my spanish class that sat really far away from me, but I was an afc so i didnt have the balls to talk to her. A year has passed, I go to a different school, Im pretty confident and im not afraid of talking to anyone, but my school has like no hot chicks. I regret not getting to this website last year. But anyway, a good friend of mine knows her and has her as a friend on myspace. Now the only way of talking to her again is through myspace, witch sux, cuz i dont want to seem as a creepy dude, and i think its lame to start talking to someone uve never met through the internet:nono: . Well anyway, what shoud i tell her over myspace to get her interested? I was thinking of something like "Hey I saw u on nates profile, and i recognized u from my spanish class last year. How u been?" But then shed be like WTF? he only talks to me through myspace, wat a loser. Help?!?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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soadflav said:
OK so heres the deal. Last year i went to a private school and i was an afc. There was this amazing girl in my spanish class that sat really far away from me, but I was an afc so i didnt have the balls to talk to her. A year has passed, I go to a different school, Im pretty confident and im not afraid of talking to anyone, but my school has like no hot chicks. I regret not getting to this website last year. But anyway, a good friend of mine knows her and has her as a friend on myspace. Now the only way of talking to her again is through myspace, witch sux, cuz i dont want to seem as a creepy dude, and i think its lame to start talking to someone uve never met through the internet:nono: . Well anyway, what shoud i tell her over myspace to get her interested? I was thinking of something like "Hey I saw u on nates profile, and i recognized u from my spanish class last year. How u been?" But then shed be like WTF? he only talks to me through myspace, wat a loser. Help?!?
im talking to you right now over the internet. does that make me a creep?
stop worrying about what she will think. just send her a message like "hey. i came across your profile on nate's page and you looked familair. i think i may have had spanish class with u? do you remember me?" and go from there. if she likes you she will respond. if she doesnt respond then who cares. life goes on...
 

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Thanks, I might use that, but if i never talked to her how would she remember me?
 

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Thanks, I might use that, but if i never talked to her how would she remember me?
she would see the pic on your profile and maybe remember youe face. who cares if she remembers you or not. you are just using this spanish class reference to start a conversation. once she responds back then put your bid in and try to see if you have any things in common. if you feel that she seems like fun and want to hang with her then make a suggestion that the two of you hangout one day and then exchange phone numbers to setup a date...
 

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J Roc said:
she would see the pic on your profile and maybe remember youe face. who cares if she remembers you or not. you are just using this spanish class reference to start a conversation. once she responds back then put your bid in and try to see if you have any things in common. if you feel that she seems like fun and want to hang with her then make a suggestion that the two of you hangout one day and then exchange phone numbers to setup a date...
:rockon: The spanish class is just an excuse to say hi. Worst thing she can do is not respond.....boo hoo. But, don't act like you are being friendly just to be her friend, or it'll stay that way. And, if I were you, I'd say hi and keep your conversation in Spanish.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Thanks guys, just sent her the message. Ill keep ya posted:yes:
 

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What happened? You out with her now, or still waiting for a reply?
 
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J Roc said:
just send her a message like "hey. i came across your profile on nate's page and you looked familair. i think i may have had spanish class with u? do you remember me?" and go from there. if she likes you she will respond. if she doesnt respond then who cares. life goes on...
That's the right idea. I know you already sent it, but it would have been a little better if you said "I think I remember you..." rather than "Do you remember me?" It sounds less needy and more like she's in YOUR world rather that your in her world.

In any event, let us know what happens. And in the future, do not be afraid of approaching a female and saying hello...especially if she shows signs of interest.
 

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Hey guys sorry for not replying, anyway i sent her that message inside the friend request, which was a bad idea, i mean she added me as a friend but she didnt respond, and worse yet is that in her myspace it says that shes going out with this guy and is currently "in a relationship" so watever, i guess it was my fault for not talking to her last year. Dont matter though ill find someone better.... eventually
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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