"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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CORVETTE06

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Hey whats up? Last night (Friday) i met a lot of girls at the club. They told me to find them on facebook , or i said that i will find them on facebook. (Facebook is just like Myspace, but for colleges). If i send them friend requests today, does that look desperate? How long should I wait before sending a friend request?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Bible_Belt

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fwiw, everyone has their own style and circumstances, but I refuse to use the Internet in regard to women. If a girl asks about myspace or facebook, I accuse her of being "one of those Internet people." Although ms & fb are very popular, I still think the Internet just isn't sexy. If I see a girl using those sites, a decent neg-hit is to tell her that those social networking sites are addictive, and "you may have a problem."

I take ms/fb as an opportunity to differentiate myself from other guys. If she says to look her up on facebook, I tell her to give me her number instead, so that we can talk on the phone like normal people.
 

Grimple

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Why facebook?

Is it really that hard to ask for a number?
 

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fb is an easy way to social proof yourself if you have a lot of friends and activtiy, or an easy way to give yourself negative social proof.

it would indeed seem desperate if you sent them requests today. wait a few days.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DJ_in_making

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CORVETTE06 said:
How long should I wait before sending a friend request?
Oh, plz, just send her a friend request before she forgets you. You really think she's gonna say,

"Omg he didn't wait 3 days to send me a friend request, he's sOoO needy"?
 

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Chances are if you sent it the night after you meet her, she will be a little creeped out by it.

I've met girls at school or wherever and had them add me on myspace less than a few hours later. It's awkward, and I know exactly whats going through their mind. If you're on, do it, no biggie, if you want to wait a day or so, go for it. It's the internet, not like you're going to die.
 

Ace_McGregor

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Why not just ask for the #. Skip the whole facebook thing. Think about it - when you talk to her on facebook you'll eventually ask for her number, right? Why not just skip this step and get the number to begin with?
 
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