"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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CORVETTE06

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Hey whats up? Last night (Friday) i met a lot of girls at the club. They told me to find them on facebook , or i said that i will find them on facebook. (Facebook is just like Myspace, but for colleges). If i send them friend requests today, does that look desperate? How long should I wait before sending a friend request?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bible_Belt

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fwiw, everyone has their own style and circumstances, but I refuse to use the Internet in regard to women. If a girl asks about myspace or facebook, I accuse her of being "one of those Internet people." Although ms & fb are very popular, I still think the Internet just isn't sexy. If I see a girl using those sites, a decent neg-hit is to tell her that those social networking sites are addictive, and "you may have a problem."

I take ms/fb as an opportunity to differentiate myself from other guys. If she says to look her up on facebook, I tell her to give me her number instead, so that we can talk on the phone like normal people.
 

Grimple

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Why facebook?

Is it really that hard to ask for a number?
 

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fb is an easy way to social proof yourself if you have a lot of friends and activtiy, or an easy way to give yourself negative social proof.

it would indeed seem desperate if you sent them requests today. wait a few days.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DJ_in_making

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CORVETTE06 said:
How long should I wait before sending a friend request?
Oh, plz, just send her a friend request before she forgets you. You really think she's gonna say,

"Omg he didn't wait 3 days to send me a friend request, he's sOoO needy"?
 

Skilla_Staz

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Chances are if you sent it the night after you meet her, she will be a little creeped out by it.

I've met girls at school or wherever and had them add me on myspace less than a few hours later. It's awkward, and I know exactly whats going through their mind. If you're on, do it, no biggie, if you want to wait a day or so, go for it. It's the internet, not like you're going to die.
 

Ace_McGregor

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Why not just ask for the #. Skip the whole facebook thing. Think about it - when you talk to her on facebook you'll eventually ask for her number, right? Why not just skip this step and get the number to begin with?
 
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