"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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CORVETTE06

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Hey whats up? Last night (Friday) i met a lot of girls at the club. They told me to find them on facebook , or i said that i will find them on facebook. (Facebook is just like Myspace, but for colleges). If i send them friend requests today, does that look desperate? How long should I wait before sending a friend request?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bible_Belt

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fwiw, everyone has their own style and circumstances, but I refuse to use the Internet in regard to women. If a girl asks about myspace or facebook, I accuse her of being "one of those Internet people." Although ms & fb are very popular, I still think the Internet just isn't sexy. If I see a girl using those sites, a decent neg-hit is to tell her that those social networking sites are addictive, and "you may have a problem."

I take ms/fb as an opportunity to differentiate myself from other guys. If she says to look her up on facebook, I tell her to give me her number instead, so that we can talk on the phone like normal people.
 

Grimple

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Why facebook?

Is it really that hard to ask for a number?
 

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fb is an easy way to social proof yourself if you have a lot of friends and activtiy, or an easy way to give yourself negative social proof.

it would indeed seem desperate if you sent them requests today. wait a few days.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DJ_in_making

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CORVETTE06 said:
How long should I wait before sending a friend request?
Oh, plz, just send her a friend request before she forgets you. You really think she's gonna say,

"Omg he didn't wait 3 days to send me a friend request, he's sOoO needy"?
 

Skilla_Staz

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Chances are if you sent it the night after you meet her, she will be a little creeped out by it.

I've met girls at school or wherever and had them add me on myspace less than a few hours later. It's awkward, and I know exactly whats going through their mind. If you're on, do it, no biggie, if you want to wait a day or so, go for it. It's the internet, not like you're going to die.
 

Ace_McGregor

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Why not just ask for the #. Skip the whole facebook thing. Think about it - when you talk to her on facebook you'll eventually ask for her number, right? Why not just skip this step and get the number to begin with?
 
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