"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Myspace, Facebook, ect... What's the deal?

SharinganUser

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I just found out that on facebook(and I am sure it's on myspace) that you can post events and parties and what not.

My idea was to check the events and see what bars the people would be hitting up. I would then go to said bar and well you know how b-day girls/party's can get.

I think it's an ok idea, but my housemate (who's an afc) doesn't agree for reason's that just don't add up. What do you all think of using these sites like yellowpages-getting-laid-edition?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Jack McCrack

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I don't know about you man but if I go to a bar I don't it as an event on myspace.
 

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"I don't know about you man but if I go to a bar I don't it as an event on myspace."

I don't understand that sentence.

People are listing their parties and saying what bars they are going to hit up.
 

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Not a bad idea I must say. While you're at it, you might as well creep the pages of the girls that are going, you can get an idea of which ones are single...check out their pics to get a read on whether you think they might be interested in you.

Of course at the same time I find this idea somewhat creepy, and I think a lot of people share the same sentiments.
 

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Sounds like to much research to me. If you already know the woman why don't you setup something one on one? If you don't know them, then just go straight to a bar and find some other random?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i think thats called stalking. just go to any bar, theres always chicks there.
 

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Nothing wrong with it. Just don't let other people know you're doing it.

And yes, check out which ones are "single" to help you maximize your time and efforts.
 

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bman said:
i think thats called stalking. just go to any bar, theres always chicks there.
No, stalking is when you follow them from one place to another. If you go to a yoga class to meet women, you are not stalking them.

green69 said:
Not a bad idea I must say. While you're at it, you might as well creep the pages of the girls that are going, you can get an idea of which ones are single...check out their pics to get a read on whether you think they might be interested in you.

Of course at the same time I find this idea somewhat creepy, and I think a lot of people share the same sentiments.

I can understand why you might think this as a creepy idea, but some women would think the same thing about a guy that visits sites that give advice on how to pick up women.

These girls are posting it on the internet in an open website that allows anyone to see the details. It's safe to assume they don't want a private party.
 

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SharinganUser said:
I can understand why you might think this as a creepy idea, but some women would think the same thing about a guy that visits sites that give advice on how to pick up women.
Don't ever tell anyone about this site, except maybe your best bud, and take it to the grave with you.
In fact i think girls think any guy that wants to get some is creepy, unless he's hot of course which shows higher value, but otherwise that's why we have to play these stupid games.
It's all about who has the power and boy do i know i'm kidding myself when i act like i don't want it... but amazingly it works.

Oh yeah and i do the whole myspace thing. It's great if you have a lot of ass chasing you, but not so great when you start out.
 

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SharinganUser said:
I just found out that on facebook(and I am sure it's on myspace) that you can post events and parties and what not.

My idea was to check the events and see what bars the people would be hitting up. I would then go to said bar and well you know how b-day girls/party's can get.

I think it's an ok idea, but my housemate (who's an afc) doesn't agree for reason's that just don't add up. What do you all think of using these sites like yellowpages-getting-laid-edition?
i don't ask for advice from AFC's.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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**** dude that's standard fair at my college.

Of course, everyone at my college knows everyone else there. So things like who's single and who's not are widely known.
 

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Notice how everyone on facebook appears to have a life and a party of smiles? It's gotta be all fake. It's what you see of others....that they're happier, outgoing, etc. Most of my connections are IMO Attention seeking. They have hundreds of connections. In person tho they are shallow and hollow.

Limit your use of those sites. Only connect people who ask to connect to you. Don't have long conversations about the past (school mates) because it just drags on and on. Go to this site, learn the DJ ways and learn to do face-to-face. Facebook, myspace, etc. is a big trap!
 
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