"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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My weak point

steve_erkle

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Now I'm posting this because I've realized its my biggest weakness and need help getting passed it.

i'm a good looking guy and have decent game. I've had hot girls throw themselves at me.

Sounds good right?...
No.

My problem is , that i just can not take it from the level where were both attracted to where were actually hooking up and everything. It's like, I'll like a girl and she'll like me but i'll be too scared to do anything about it.. and eventually the attraction fades. Anybody else like this? Anyone have any suggestions?

I'm pretty sure the only answer to this is to "just do it in spite of being scared"...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lansing

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I used to be like this...but what I found best was to put yourself in the situation where it would be weird NOT to do anything. Get her alone, and just start talking. Let her know you are attracted, and you shouldn't have to do anything after that, it should just happen. If you are really scared, build the attraction up so much that she takes the next step.

Or take your own advice, and just go for it.
 

ready123

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I was like this too about 6 years ago, basically had no idea how to close

btw, if you can't close, be honest with yourself - you don't have decent game, you need to put in work

and your answer is right, you just gotta barrel through it until you've had enough experiences closing, that you're comfortable with it. and along the way, expect to lose a few girls and have a few awkward situations

it helps to understand that if the girl likes you, she WANTS you to close her, figure out all the logistics, and lead her through it. it also helps to understand basic female social conditioning, and why even though girls are horny as hell, they won't take responsibility for their sexual desires (and thus rely on you to make it happen). imagine the disappointment the girl feels when she thinks she's gonna get laid by this cool guy and he ends up emasculating himself
 
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